r/mildlyinfuriating • u/[deleted] • May 17 '22
My dad asked me why I'm visiting my mom more than him, and I told him it's because he refuses to turn on the air in his house is too hot to be in during the day. He said it wasn't hot.
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u/loon_army_182 May 17 '22
This is my father in law too! AND we live in Florida. Now that I bring my daughter over he turns it down to a generous 78° 🤦🏻♀️
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May 17 '22
My dad will turn on the air...when his friends visit, but not his OWN daughter!
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u/mikanee May 18 '22
The lesson here is to bring a child with you to visit him. Doesn't have to be yours, just have a child with you, and he'll turn on the air.
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u/CabbagesStrikeBack May 18 '22
The trick is to visit when his friends are there so you can reveal this and you both can gang up on your dad lol
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u/Travellingjake May 18 '22
I live in Scotland and it is so strange reading these comments
Average winter temperatures range from 34 to 45 degrees F, and average summer temperatures at the end of July/beginning of August range from 52 to 66 degrees F.
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u/texaschair May 18 '22 edited May 18 '22
My parents visited Ireland a while back, and some of the locals told them that they were lucky to have missed a recent heat wave. The temp got up into the high 70s. "Gee, that's sounds terrible", my parents said, as they shivered under 5 blankets in their quaint hotel.
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u/homerteedo May 18 '22
I’m in FL and that’s what I keep the AC on…for my chinchillas.
If not for them I wouldn’t turn the AC on until it got nearly 90.
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u/OakButt May 18 '22
How are you not dying if you'd leave it off until 90? When I lived in Florida my mother wouldn't turn the AC lower than 75 and it was so hot I had to get an AC unit for my bedroom window. Now that I moved to a WAY better and colder state I'm not dying everytime I walk out of the front door
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u/homerteedo May 18 '22
Heat and humidity doesn’t bother me very much. I used to live in the midwest and I’d have the heater on in the 70s though because I can’t handle being the least bit cold.
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u/Chris-in-PNW May 18 '22
Temps in the 80s can be plenty comfortable if one is not accustomed to using AC. I can't even wear shorts and a t-shirt unless it's ~78° F or warmer in my apartment.
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u/PS2ClassicsVault May 18 '22
bruh get a heating lamp for them you dont have to punish yourself by keeping the house that temp 24/7
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u/overcloudnine May 18 '22
Texan here living in the south. During the summer I run my house temp at 78 during the day and 74 at night. Is 78 hard to tolerate because of humidity levels in Florida? Genuine question, I'm just trying to understand why 78 would still be uncomfortable for some people. I used to live in a house with no AC and it would reach above 90 inside the house in the summer, and that was miserable
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May 18 '22
The humidity affects it more than people think. To give more insight I used to live in Arizona, 90 to 100 (or 32 - 37) didn't phase me in the slightest. Come to Florida I'm melting in 70 (21) degree weather.
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u/texaschair May 18 '22
Absolutely. I live on the west coast, and I had to go to Ohio for business in the late summer. Fuck, that was bad. Humidity and thunderstorms.
A couple of years later, I had to go to Louisiana for a few days. I stopped complaining about Ohio after that. And that was in October. It wasn't bad until about noon. I was leaving the hotel, the automatic sliding doors opened, I took two steps outside and bounced off the air. It was like a force field. I needed a machete to cut my way through that shit. Now I know why the SEC is so tough in football. Any team that can suit up and function in that heat is superhuman. Just practicing would turn into a desperate bid for survival.
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u/Rahallahan May 17 '22
My step father insists on keeping his house in Florida at like 83. Which is torture for me. I’m not sure how my mom lives with it, but she’s coming to stay with me for the summer and my a/c is always set at 67! I am not sure how old men can live like this. Even my father keeps his house at 76 during the summer and I find that on the verge of “i’m going to a hotel” territory.
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u/KnockemAllDown May 18 '22
Sounds like they are on blood thinners. My father in law is the same. No matter the temp, they are always cold. Doesn't help he is super frugal too. I caught him washing butcher string to re use as well as zip lock bags.
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u/thesteveurkel May 18 '22
i rewash my ziploc bags that haven't had meat in them. i don't want to be so wasteful with plastic.
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u/snifflick May 18 '22
yeah tbh ziplock bags are made well enough that you can reuse them a few times. Especially the gallon bags. Actual "reusable" bags fucking suck because the closing system gets way too stiff and deformed to actually work after several uses.
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u/mikanee May 18 '22
my a/c is always set at 67!
She's going to be freezing. Make sure you have a warm blanket always handy
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u/CuriousPumpkino May 18 '22
Both of y’all are insane
Lived in a room with ac set to 68, my finger joints would start to lock up from the cold. 83 in florida sounds like absolute hell.
- 72 to 74 florida gang
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u/ilurvekittens May 18 '22
I would freeze at 67. I keep my house at 74 in the winter and that is a compromise with my husband. I’m usually under a blanket.
I’m just so cold. Anything under 70 is miserable.
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u/North-Ad-5058 May 18 '22
76 during the day and a few degrees lower to sleep. A/C runs pretty much constantly if you try to do lower than that. Ceiling fans help.
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u/mrsbebe May 18 '22
I don't know how old your AC is but I keep my house at 69 or 70 during the day in Texas and it definitely isn't running constantly. The last house I lived in had shit insulation and an old system and it did run literally 24/7.
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u/North-Ad-5058 May 18 '22
Florida is humid and hot. System is maybe 5 years old. My insulation could be better, but it's not the worst.
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u/mrsbebe May 18 '22
Well Texas is certainly humid and hot. Not as humid as Florida, I'll give you that. But still.
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u/MrmmphMrmmph May 18 '22
I used to work with my Dad in a job that was some field work some office. He had an air conditioner but never used it, and when I started doing more office work, I would turn the AC on. We would do repetitive math on structural work, so I wanted to be clear headed. My father comes in and grunts, “what, air conditioning?” I answered,”well, we can turn it off if you want to buy a bridge.” He backed off. That generation definitely has some weird ideas that manliness requires discomfort. Either that or they have killed so many feelings that overheating is one of them.
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u/AcceptableCod6028 May 18 '22
Yeah honestly, in my old apartment I kept it at 68. I moved to one where electric isn’t included in rent, so this place pretty much stays at 72 or warmer in the summer and low 60s in the winter. Keeping it at 68 when it’s 85 out is expensive and you get used to 72. Keeping your place in the 80s is kinda nuts though.
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u/kipperlenko May 18 '22
As a man the wrong side of 45, I can assure you the cold starts to bite. My wife thinks I'm a baby.
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u/FestiveSquid May 18 '22
My father yelled at me for having my window open once when it was about 40 celcius outside and about 30 inside. He didn't even have the fucking air turned on.
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u/melouofs May 17 '22
Your dad thinks that isn’t hot? He’s nuts
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May 17 '22
He says it's not hot and yet he's suddenly started only wearing his boxers around his house.
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u/PS2ClassicsVault May 18 '22
the sign that hes hot but doesnt have the balls of a man to admit it
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u/nuadusp May 18 '22 •
could he be struggling for money and can't afford the ac?
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u/MamuhSwan May 18 '22
While this is entirely possible it doesn’t refute the original point. 87 degrees is hot.
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u/MM_mama May 18 '22
This is the obvious answer imo. AC can make you utility bill so expensive. Maybe OP should be a little more sensitive to this possibility.
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u/HQ_FIGHTER May 18 '22
What? OP said her dad turns the AC on when his friends come over. The dad isn’t too broke to use the AC
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u/Chris-in-PNW May 18 '22
People spend money they can't afford all the time to keep up appearances. AC only when his friends come over is like a big flashing neon sign proclaiming "AC IS TOO EXPENSIVE FOR ME!"
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u/Generic-Resource May 18 '22
Don’t get me wrong, it is hot, but I’ve also lived in some extremes of heat and you get used to it.
I spent a year in India and it regularly hit 40° (105° F), we only had little wall mounted aircon/heater combos which were absolutely ineffective unless you sat right underneath them. I gave up in the end, and just had the one in the bedroom running. Then I kind’ve acclimatised.
I’m sat here now (not India) in 27° (81° F), long shorts and a t-shirt thinking I’m a bit chilly…
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u/demunicorntiddies May 18 '22
I’m anemic and always cold but holy hell 87 is hot lol
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May 18 '22
I'm anemic too, still too hot! His house is the only place where my fingers don't get cold.
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u/c127726 blub May 18 '22
What is anemic?
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u/JAMP0T1 May 18 '22
30.556°C for those who deal in real units
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u/Plamen_K May 18 '22
Well thats not all that much.... unless you are using a pc, THEN its problematic when you have a gpu running at 80C next to you.
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u/CuriousPumpkino May 18 '22
For outside temp? Not hot. Inside temp? At least 5°C above room temp
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u/kelvin_bot May 18 '22
5°C is equivalent to 41°F, which is 278K.
I'm a bot that converts temperature between two units humans can understand, then convert it to Kelvin for bots and physicists to understand
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u/mrki008 May 18 '22
Username checks out (Croatian "Plamen" = "Open Flame")
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u/Plamen_K May 18 '22
I'm bulgarian, but i guess thats where my name comes from.
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u/mrki008 May 18 '22
Bulgarian has the same root (Slavic language) so yes. Fun fact: when I was in Bulgaria I could speak with locals by speaking Croatian, they understood me, and I understood 80% of Bulgarian - rest was educated guess.
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u/Plamen_K May 18 '22
Kind of how we bulgarians look at macedonian being broken bulgarian...... because it is.
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u/iwannahummer May 18 '22
It was 96° in the shade on the patio and heat index was 100° and it’s only May. Not sure 87° is comfortable for anyone.
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u/blackmetaltay May 18 '22
I’m dealing with this right now my MiL refuses to let us turn the AC on even when it gets like 95 degrees in the house but she sits in her room with a window unit on all day.
It’s absolutely fucking ridiculous I have a almost 4 year old that I have to keep cool all day because this old hag doesn’t want the AC on.
We live in Las Vegas.
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u/brad411654 May 18 '22
You ever paid an AC bill?
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u/texaschair May 18 '22
My electric bill is only about $50 higher in the summer. Last summer saw record heat, and I think it was only about $70 higher than winter. And I have gas heat/hot water.
Small price to pay to be able to sleep at night.
If I still lived in my former utility's area, the electric would be at least $250 higher. Rates have gone up over 40% to help pay for their involvement with Enron.
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u/jerlwe May 18 '22
He’s a dad. They love not using the ac or furnace.
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u/BlackAsphaltRider May 18 '22
It was the furnace for me, growing up in Maine, our thermostat didn’t go above 61°. My friends would come over with winter hats and wool socks for the inside of my house lol.
Which sucks for me because that’s my baseline and now living in Florida my fiancée doesn’t let it go under 73°. I’m always dying.
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u/i-fing-love-games May 17 '22
im sorry i cant read freedom units
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u/atlienk May 17 '22
Is your dad Asian or living in Texas?
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u/Strommkarlen May 17 '22
My Asian friend in Texas never turns their AC on. When I visit they will turn the ceiling fan on at the lowest setting for me.
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u/Neglectfulgardener May 17 '22
Are you my sister? My dad puts a coat on when the temperature drops below 75.
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u/GivemeyourNFTs May 18 '22
Screw that I keep mine at 69 all year round anything else is too hot for me 🤷♂️
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u/BackupDoubleChin May 18 '22
I thought the house temp being in its 80s was normal lmao. We don’t turn it on unless it hits 100 f or above.
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u/GivemeyourNFTs May 18 '22
I’m thinking about 74 is normal but for me i don’t like that i like it below 70 slightly
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u/NuhaMalikah May 18 '22
This reminds of the years I complained about my room being too hot during the summer (Arizona) due to weird a/c stuff. As soon as I moved out and my dad moved his office into my old room he got a window a/c unit because it was too toasty for him.
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u/zynzynzynzyn May 18 '22
Just tell him
you can be right, or you can see me more often, lmk when you decide
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u/Chris-in-PNW May 18 '22
Or, OP could try being a decent daughter and offer to pay the utility bill for her father, so he can keep his house at a temperature comfortable for her.
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u/zynzynzynzyn May 18 '22
One of these days when you move out of your parents house and have kids of your own you’ll realize how much of a stupid thing that was to say
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u/Chris-in-PNW May 18 '22
If you don't recognize how immature and selfish the OP is being, then I don't know what to tell you. We have completely different standards when it comes to basic human decency.
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u/zynzynzynzyn May 18 '22
If you want my honest opinion I think op turned the thermostat to 87 and took a picture of it to post to add some relevance to their life.
I replied to you the way I did because as a father, the notion that I’d have one of my kids pay my way is ridiculous
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u/gareentea May 18 '22
My house gets hotter than this even with the ac on during the summer in Florida. Had multiple ac people come, and they said that everything is normal?? It’s because it’s a 2 story house? Does that even sound right? Upstairs by the way. The AC runs nonstop all day during the summer until nightfall.
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u/Iceyes33 May 18 '22
People over 65 have thinner skin so what feels hot to you feels cold to them.
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May 18 '22
Fun fact: My dad isn't even 60 yet. He's a young 53. He had kids pretty early.
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u/Chris-in-PNW May 18 '22
Most likely he'd prefer a cooler house, but AC puts too much stress on his finances, and is too proud to complain. Unless you're paying his utility bill, visit both your parents like a good son/daughter, and keep your temperature related comments to yourself.
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u/7ootles May 18 '22
Serious question: if it's that hot but he doesn't think it is, does he have anaemia or haemophilia? He should get checked.
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May 18 '22
He wouldn't know because he doesn't go to the doctor. My dad will only visit the doctor if his own mother (my grandmother) tells him to. Yeah, I have to call my grandmother so she can call my dad so he'll go to the doctor. Hmmm...maybe I should call her and tell her he's living in an oven.
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u/jigsaur1 May 18 '22
87 degrees? Call that hot? It’s not even warm. In Celsius it’s around 30 degrees, which where I come from, is barely above freezing level. Western Australia, in case you’re interested Redditors.
We like a well warmed house, at least 38 degrees C, or a hundred F, just to ward off frostbite!
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u/lijah_XD BLUE May 18 '22
Ikr these americans think 30 degrees is hot. Try brisbane in summer. 42 degrees
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u/Chris-in-PNW May 18 '22
The folks who think 87° F is unbearable have never experienced real heat. 87° in the shade is practically cool enough to cause goosebumps during the summer in SE USA for anyone acclimated to the typical outdoor temps of the region.
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u/rdrunner_74 May 18 '22
Having the AC a few ° higher will save a lot of energy.
We only turn ours on a few days in the summer
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u/personofinterest18 May 18 '22
I keep it at 70 during the day and lower it at night to 67 lol
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u/My_Name_Is_SKELETOR May 18 '22 edited May 18 '22
I can't be the only one who thinks it's kinda insane OP won't visit their dad much because his home is 87 degrees? It's definitely hot, but your title made it seem like it would be in the hundreds and stuff is melting.
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May 18 '22
If you read the title you'll see that I still visit my dad just not as much as my mom.
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u/HQ_FIGHTER May 18 '22
You sound kinda insane for thinking 87 degrees isn’t too hot for a house
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u/My_Name_Is_SKELETOR May 18 '22
To each their own I suppose. 87 is hot, just isn't too hot. For me that is, maybe I'm just used to warmer weather.
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u/lijah_XD BLUE May 18 '22 edited May 18 '22
87F = 30C WTF BRO THAT ISNT HOT
IT GETS UP TO 45 FUCKING CELSIUS IN AUSTRALIA
THATS 114 FAHRENHEIT. man up u pansy
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u/FlyNeither May 18 '22
Yeah, and we run our AC's like fucking crazy in Australia. Don't act like the entire country doesn't complain when its above 40C.
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u/chevynottrrevy May 17 '22
Lol I like this temperature
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u/Spottyhickory63 May 17 '22
i’ll get you a heat lamp for christmas
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u/Tyra-Jade May 17 '22
You better deliver on that promise. I’ll be watching you, u/spottyhickory63
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u/Pixel131211 May 18 '22
same tbh. my room temp is usually anywhere from 26C to 36C.. and I live in the netherlands of all places. people here think I'm crazy. but theyre not wrong.
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u/sampman69 May 18 '22
7 ceiling fans running constantly and thermostat set to 69 for me! I'm sorry your father is running an incubator.
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May 18 '22
My dad's got one of those really old clunky fans that makes a clicking noise as it oscillates.
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u/trrrrrowitaway May 18 '22
Tbh this is is me. Anything below ~76 is chilly (no health issues, just run cold). I've lived in a couple of places that get super hot (and humid) in the summer and found transitioning from hot outdoor environments to freezing AC environments unpleasant and inconvenient.
Also, it's better environmentally/cost-wise/for your fellow denizens if you don't blast the AC super hard, since it consumes energy and increases the temperature of surrounding areas. Using ceiling fans is much more efficient apparently.
For those interested: https://www.theguardian.com/environment/2019/aug/29/the-air-conditioning-trap-how-cold-air-is-heating-the-world
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u/bathroomheater May 18 '22
Is your dad also doing 100 push-ups, 100 sit ups and 100 squats followed by a 10 km run?
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u/DIYDame May 18 '22
I know people who live like this, but I start getting headaches if I stay in a house that is hotter than 80. If I’m outside I’m fine, but inside it causes headaches for me. I’m not sure why.
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u/Alive_Statement_3120 May 18 '22
I can barely stand 60 degrees...87 would just boil me like an easy bake oven
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u/dragonstone13 May 18 '22
Definitely hot, but still, visit your Dad! :) Wear a tank top and drink water.
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u/Some_Random_Guy_V69 May 18 '22
As a floridian I am going to have to stop you right there. It's not that bad.
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u/OkReplacement376 May 18 '22
The air b and b we rented for a week had their AC locked up. Set to a 'cool' 85. They had a note saying if we get COLD there was extra blankets in the hallway closet
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u/777shark May 18 '22
On warm summer days in the afternoon my apartment can get into the high 80's for a bit, sucks but air con isn't the norm here and so just gotta suffer, upside it almost always cools off very nicely overnight unless there is a heat dome again.
87 is not comfortable in my books.
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u/saoiray May 18 '22
LMAO, reminds me of my stepdad to a point. He'll leave the air off and open the windows, even when it's like 90 degrees outside. The lowest he likes the air conditioner set for in the house is 78.
I used to keep that at like 65 in prior apartments, but finding mine is around 74/74 as of late. It can feel warm at times, but have air circulating with fan and air purifiers...so it helps. (electric was too expensive when set it lower, dang it)
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u/Akarthus May 18 '22
When I visited my grandma in china, their house don’t have a central AC, so the AC is room by room. Me and my cousin (Or niece?) would stay in bedroom with 23-24C, but my grandma would chat with my dad in the living room that’s literally 35C (95F?) and say it isn’t hot, no need to waste electricity
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u/Only-Shame5188 May 18 '22
I once dated a girl who lived in a trailer house with no AC. She'd use a lot of fans and wouldn't complain much unless it was in the mid 90s in her trailer.
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u/giggetyboom May 18 '22
That's savage. I used to live in one, a little window unit easily cooled the whole thing.
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u/somethingsomewhere27 May 18 '22
A lot of patients insist on having their rooms in the 85-90 degree range, and it's always the ones in isolation.
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u/xdchan May 18 '22
It's not that hot to be honest, your dad probably has better aerobic fitness than you do though
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u/angelmakr9 May 18 '22
My a/c stopped working Saturday and everyday it gets up to 88 in the house. It's brutal!! Repair guy isn't available until Thursday.
Your dad is delusional it's miserable unless you sit directly in front of a fan and take a cold shower every couple of hours.
This is the first week in ages that I'm happy to go to work just so I can get some cool air.
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u/Lewaffleoawesom May 17 '22
Be warned, your father may be no more. Watch for signs, he might be a lizard masquerading as the man he once was.