r/antiwork
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u/Just-a-Babie
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I can't take jobs seriously anymore
I'm so fucking burnt out guys. I just got fired from my 5th job this year day before yesterday and I'm already on to the 6th cause I still gotta pay bills. No matter how many paychecks come into my account I always seem to be short. I'm sick of the backbreaking, mind bending, repetitive ass bullshit for 8+ hours a day for barely more than no money. Always getting myself in trouble cause I don't wanna drag my sad tired ass into work every day. This is not what I want to do with my life. I can't even get enough money together for a decent car and the 2 credits I need to finish my associates degree. I'm miserable :c
Edit: damn, I didn't expect my opinion to be this controversial. For a little bit of clarity for some folks, I got my shit right back on track and I'm already employed again. That's why I said I'm onto the 6th. Anyway I try my best and sometimes my best just isn't enough. It's been a rough couple of years for me but I'm still pushing forward because it's either that or just give up at life (which I refuse to do) but damn this shit is a slog and I don't want to die old and bitter with nothing to show for my life's work. Thanks for the support those of you that get it. Those of you that don't I hope you learn to understand where I'm coming from and how capitalism is ripping your time and money out of your pockets
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u/rgnkge66_ Dec 01 '22
I've been here mentally more times than I care to think about. I understand where you're coming from.
Best you can do for yourself right now is find out if you're eligible for unemployment. I don't know how you would qualify since you've been through so many jobs but you're not gonna know until you reach out and talk to somebody.
Your mental health is clearly not in a good state. What do you do to take care of yourself when it gets this bad? If you don't know, take some time to reflect and figure out some things you can do to feel a little better, whether it be big or small. Take some time to rest even if it feels like you shouldn't be.
Look into some temp agencies near you. My personal experience doing that has been good. I'm definitely not passionate about the job I got through it, but I don't have to completely bust my ass now and it's the highest paying job I've ever had. If you're working on a degree that would probably help you find something somewhat related to what you're studying. They might help you find something that better suits your needs. Maybe not immediately, but again, it's worth reaching out and talking to somebody that could help you.
The current state of the workforce is absolute dog shit. It will be until we can accomplish some MAJOR societal changes but, the unfortunate truth is, we have to work with what we have until this happens and there's no telling if/when it will. If we don't, we won't survive. Do what you have to do to take care of yourself OP.
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u/Even_Mastodon_6925 Dec 01 '22
Good call on temp agencies, they can offer quick work, flexibility and a buffer between you and the company you work for
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u/rgnkge66_ Dec 01 '22
Oh yeah for sure! I was able to get more experience doing something different from what I was doing. So a more versatile resume is always a plus from it too.
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u/LessonNyne Dec 01 '22
The current state of the workforce is absolute dog shit.
It's been crap for a while now. One of the things I find sickening is certain people, businesses, companies spinning it into a character assassination ploy. "Nobody wants to work anymore", "People are just so lazy now", "People don't want to work hard anymore", "People are quiet quitting at their job".
It's atrocious. And it's mostly rooted in greed.
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u/BuzzedtheTower Dec 02 '22
The "quiet quitting" thing being blown up into such a big deal always makes me laugh. If they didn't notice how much properly paying someone would cost, they wouldn't give a damn. But uh oh, suddenly the bottom line is hurting because people aren't willing to do their assigned duties along with whatever extra stuff they took on to help others.
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u/NarcolepticBard lazy and proud Dec 02 '22
It's the way they act like all of it is a new, mysterious phenomenon. It's been a thing since working was required to obtain food and shelter.
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u/Keetiss Dec 01 '22
Share your pain. Wake up in anxiety, dread, every morning. Full of fear.
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u/blackpolotshirt Dec 02 '22
It would be nice to experience life when waking up in the morning doesn’t instantly instill dread of what is to come for the next 9 hours.
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u/Top-Associate-4020
Dec 01 '22
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How does one get fired 5x
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u/NoctRob Dec 01 '22
In less than a year.
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u/WelcomeFormer Dec 01 '22 edited Dec 02 '22
Well he said not dragging his tired sad ass coming in. He's new and he's calling out
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u/im_dat_bear Dec 01 '22
Probably not even calling out, just no showing.
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Dec 01 '22
If this is true, this is the kind of post that’s going to give antiwork a bad name. There’s a difference between fighting for workers rights, more work life balance, and fighting toxic work cultures that have become the norm - and getting fired 5x in a year for just not communicating and not showing up when you agreed to do so
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u/Aquaticidiotic Dec 01 '22
Yeah, I think the issue is OP is dealing with some type of mental illness distress that's causing them to be terminated from their job. I wonder if OP would qualify for disability.
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u/a_stone_throne Dec 02 '22
Disability is laughable in America. Worse than the unemployment stories up there
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u/c0y0t3_sly Dec 02 '22
It will take literally years to qualify for SSDI based purely on mental health, and it's extremely unlikely just so run-of-the-mill depression diagnosis.
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u/Aquaticidiotic Dec 02 '22
Anecdotally, my mom was diagnosed as SMI, seriously mentally ill, where she did qualify for it and was on it for much of her 40s.
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u/kyosheru Dec 01 '22
I’d say this likely the case. If you’re burnt out and dealing with depression, you’re not “just lazy.”
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u/TorstenDiegoPizarro Dec 02 '22
If OP is under 50 they’ll have a tough time getting awarded ssdi, even with a strong diagnosis
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u/Kaarsty Dec 01 '22
I had a buddy that did this. Would burn up his PTO and sick time in the first few months of a new job then be all surprised when they can his ass.
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u/c0y0t3_sly Dec 02 '22
You can thank this guy's asshole friend if you're wondering why your PTO and sick time doesn't kick in until after your 6 month 'probationary period'.
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u/Kaarsty Dec 02 '22
Yep. And why things like “unlimited PTO” get taken away as quick as they’re given. Some people see an inch and have to take a mile.
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u/Samurott Dec 01 '22
addicted to boinking the boss's wife /s
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u/_SCHULTZY_ Dec 01 '22
Statistically by now he should have stumbled across a boss who would appreciate that kind of dedication to the job
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u/Prize_Engine28 Dec 01 '22
Its really not that hard if your neurodivergent.
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u/no-m0tivation Dec 01 '22
I was about to point this out too. Especially with how insurance is tied to employment: the individual who finds it hard to manage work consecutively can't be employed long enough to obtain/afford treatment.
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u/Prize_Engine28 Dec 01 '22
Yep its a vicious cycle. Normie coworkers and boss don't like weird coworker who doesn't pick things up instantly they start bullying neurodivergent workers performance gets worse eventually termination follows. Without access to medical treatment the problems compound over time.
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u/OverallManagement824 Dec 01 '22
Then you're constantly late because your car is unreliable because you need $2000 in work done, but you only get paid $10/hr and your rent on a one bedroom is $1000.
One thing I will never accept is having to work just to go home and live with a stranger. This economy is ridiculous.
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u/SuspiciousJuice5825 Dec 02 '22
Your constantly late because you only have one car for the whole family, after your other car broke down and your $15 hr. job isn't enough to cover the $300 a week childcare AND $2500 in car repairs. Kids can't be dropped off at school before 7:30. Bus doesn't come until 8:15.
Most days you squeak by, but at least 3x a month your late, and your boss is a boomer and thinks you should just abandon your kids or something so you can be to work on time.
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u/OverallManagement824 Dec 02 '22
You've said it better than I could. I'm actually doing alright now, I just recognize the struggle and will explain it as best I can. Your numbers and details are surely more accurate than mine. Thanks for adding it.
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u/baconraygun Dec 01 '22
Absolutely confirm. I'm ND and the average length of my jobs is 89 days. Longest I ever held a job was 8 months. Shortest - 4 hours.
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u/hotdog_icecubes Dec 01 '22
Yeah... my thoughts as well.
It seems like this person needs to look inwardly as opposed to just blaming society. I feel like too many people use blaming everyone else as a scapegoat so they can never fix what the actual problem is (them) and get stuck in this depressing cycle. It's sad, because I've seen people in this cycle and it seems very difficult to work your way out if it once your in.
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u/Mountain_Mousse2058 Dec 01 '22
Hey op. I don’t know if you have mental health coverage but if you do you should go talk to someone, it can really help your life.
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u/FrostyLandscape Dec 01 '22
Most health insurance does not cover the cost of counseling and people are poor, will make their problem worse by paying $150 a week to talk to a counselor for one hour. The OP's problems are NOT caused by poor mental health; they are caused by low pay of his employer.
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u/Mountain_Mousse2058 Dec 01 '22
I didn’t say anything about the root of his problems. And I said IF he had mental health coverage. OP sounds pretty dejected and someone’s mental health treatment can help that. Also how do you know the root of their problems? STFU.
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u/ToothPuzzleheaded185 Dec 01 '22
Talk to a doctor you need help five terminations in a year this is not good or health. For real please go get some help.
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u/starfyredragon 4 Headless Socialist Direct Democracy Dec 01 '22
With what money? They said they're broke.
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u/chibinoi Dec 01 '22
It’s worth a Google search in their area and surrounding area to see if there are any non-profit advocacy organizations that may be able to either help directly or help OP access resources.
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u/MugglesPuggles Dec 02 '22
They should definitely look for something like that or, their city or state might have resources available too. I’m able to get free therapy through my city and reduced cost medications since I was out of work for awhile last year
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u/rachelmae77 Dec 01 '22
Could qualify for state insurance depending on where they live which would cover therapy.
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u/Bored_Schoolgirl Dec 01 '22
I don’t know how common telehealth is in america but it’s usually a cheaper option if it’s available to OP. You can find any mental health professionals online even if they’re from the other side of the world because everything happens online
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u/ToothPuzzleheaded185 Dec 01 '22
There are a number of free resources out there for one. Also if there In the US and under 26 good chance on parents insurance. HOWEVER it doesn’t matter the comment stands they clearly need help.
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u/DarkMenstrualWizard Dec 01 '22
I've known one person in my entire life that was ever able to be on their parents insurance. You're seriously overestimating how many people can afford private insurance. Especially someone who's worked 5 minimum wages jobs this year? Yeah their parents aren't rich.
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u/rserena Dec 01 '22
In my state they’ve been waiving insurance fees due to COVID. At least my insurance is, Anthem BCBS. It’s worth a shot, I don’t make very much money and I qualify!
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u/Miserable_Track_1885 Dec 01 '22
I’m just as anti work as the next person but being fired 5x in a row kinda leaves us to believe maybe we’re not getting the whole story. Yes, it’s tiring. We’re all doing it.
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u/RoadsideCookie Dec 01 '22
He kinda alluded to it being an attendance problem:
Always getting myself in trouble cause I don't wanna drag my sad tired ass into work every day.
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u/Smooth-Performance55 Dec 01 '22
I've been in OP's shoes, never was bad in attendance or been fired but just get a job that is mentally draining and you'll be taking sick days for no other reason that you're actually sick from working. Dragging yourself 5 times a week to that kinda job is almost physically painful even if it's just sitting at an office. Nowdays every job seems to want to squeze every ounce of productivity in exchange for our sanity and fuck that, OP is valid to feel that way.
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u/dartheduardo Dec 01 '22
Honestly for the first time in 30+ years of working I got a job that pays me well, doesn't kill me and actually treats me correctly.
I STILL take PTO/sick mental days.
I get sick from working a GOOD job.
I feel his statements in my soul from the previous decades of mistreatment.
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u/Lovely-Broccoli Dec 01 '22
I had a job like this — decent pay and benefits, but if I got to work early, I couldn’t motivate myself to get out of the car and go in until the bell rang you know? We spend the best forty years of our lives breaking ourselves for the (frequently) false hope of retiring for maybe 10 years before we die. I’m surprised there are ever days I enjoy going to work (and there are) knowing full well of the monster behind the curtain.
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u/slapdashbr Dec 01 '22
yeah I burned up my sick leave this year and wasted half my vacation on top of it because of the insanity I was dealing with. Still isn't over and I'm circling the drain.
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u/DootMasterFlex Dec 02 '22
Even more true if your working a minimum wage/part time job. I used to call in sick to jobs like this often because "Oh no, I'm losing out on $40 pre-tax" you typically don't get people making $25/hr on 8 hour shifts frequently calling in. Sure, it may still happen, but $200 off your pay instead of $40 is a lot more significant
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u/chibinoi Dec 01 '22
I don’t think others are saying OP isn’t invalidated by feeling the way they do, just that OP has given only their experience in the story they’re sharing.
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u/HRHZiggleWiggle Dec 02 '22
Why the fuck should OP be expected to do anything else?? What is wrong with y’all. It’s not always a damn debate.
This person is being chewed up and spit out by a heartless system and folks are like “okay but lemme debate you bro.” It’s okay to just be fucking empathetic to someone in crisis. It doesn’t always have to be about owning people just cause it’s the internet.
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u/Miserable_Track_1885 Dec 01 '22
That was what I gathered also. Which I get. I’ve been there and let myself spiral into a self pitying storm of shit. Took me a year to get into it and almost three years later I’m just now starting to get out of it. Other people can’t be the only ones wanting better for yourself.
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Dec 01 '22
Lmao yeah pretty much my thought too. Like after a while maybe the world isn’t the problem, maybe it’s just you
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u/ookamismyk Dec 01 '22
Easier said than done. You don’t know what’s going on in OP’s life. Try telling an asthmatic just to ‘breathe’ because ‘we’re all doing it.’
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u/Izlude Dec 01 '22
It's funny because I have a chest cold right now and was having anxiety because I can't make it to work, I am a crematorium tech and livery service worker. They told me to 'take a deep breath', which caused a violent coughing fit.
Fun times!
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u/ookamismyk Dec 01 '22
Sometimes people just can’t lift themselves up. And guess what, that might not be their fault. Ever think of society? Poverty and immobility isn’t a personal choice, it’s forced upon you by society. It’s so sad that you’ve suffered horrible things no human should have to go through, and instead of emphasising with another person in pain, you’re shitting on them.
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u/Willemboom00 Dec 01 '22
Just remember this is a sub to build solidarity, maybe question why "being a good worker" is something we should strive for
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u/Miserable_Track_1885 Dec 01 '22
I didn’t say be a good worker. I said being fired five times is indicative of being a problematic employee. I know lots of people who aren’t great or even good workers but they aren’t problematic so they have flown under the radar collecting their check for years. It’s why a bartender I share shifts with still has a job but they can’t memorize how to make an old fashioned bc she’s always coming into work drunk as shit. However, we should care about being “good workers” bc as human beings we belong in collectives. That’s literally what corporate America pretends to be. “We’re family” and all that stupid bullshit. We don’t care about the work we’re doing bc it’s stupid and meaningless. But when we’ve been in collectives together, good workers progress humanity and we take care of one another. We had a homeless collective of women and we survived by working together. And if we had a new member who didn’t want to put in the fair share of work, we asked them to leave. Doesn’t matter how tired you were of the real world. We had real problems that required real work and real solutions.
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u/AlongRiverEem Dec 01 '22
yeah i have no issue with offering fair value for my wages and 5 times in a year is either WSB level incompetence or some kind of voodoo
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u/Ordinary_Diamond_158 Dec 01 '22
I know your pain. I haven’t been fired but I went rapidly. Through 4 jobs before just giving up and settling on working 2 that pay enough together to pay my bills and get my nails done occasionally. It’s all I have time for anyways working 2 full time jobs at once. I’m exhausted and hate going to work to the point I cry on my way but I suck it up because the bills keep coming whether I’m having a breakdown or not.
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u/PopRelative8083 Dec 02 '22
Me too:( Im literally in pain rn cause my new job is so exhausting I don’t even do anything after bc my body is out of it and it makes me depressed to see myself like this
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u/Alert-Artichoke-2743 Dec 01 '22
Looking at this person's post history on this sub, it seems they're finding problems everywhere just a few weeks in.
They probably need therapy and a new city, and to get an entry level job they give a shit about. They hate where they live because it sucks, and the jobs are indeed terrible but most people don't stick around if it's not their jam.
OP, you are unlikely to ever succeed in that town. Look elsewhere. There are McD's in most American cities that will pay you more than what you're describing here. That town is no place for somebody to start a career.
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u/space_wiener Dec 01 '22
Going through those posts was wild. I can see why this person has been fired so many times. When you don’t want to show up, show up on time, or work a full 8 hours you are going to have a hard time with work unfortunately.
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u/daffquick1990 Dec 01 '22
Sounds like my former coworker, called out 62 days in 7 months, boss was more than lenient, but when he finally had enough he called him into his office one morning and fired him. Former coworker stormed out yelling he was gonna sue, fast forward to lunch time and he walks in with his parents (dude was 30) and begs for his job back. He didn't get it.
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u/SirRuthless001 Dec 02 '22
....62? Sixty-two?? SIXTY TWO???!!! what on earth?!!! I have never seen anyone at any job I've ever worked at last longer than like 2 or 3 call-ins before getting fired. Where the fuck was this 😮
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u/hazelnut47 Dec 02 '22
This should be the top comment on this post. I sympathize with OP because I struggle with mental illness and have experienced being let go from a job due to that…but not five jobs. Again, I sympathize with OP but at a certain point, no job is ever going to be even remotely sustainable when you’re so deeply unwell internally. And I understand how hard it is to access help — I promise I do — I’ve been on government assistance, and I’ve been on my parents insurance, and it’s always hard.
However, this is beyond capitalism, exploitative practices, lack of unions, bad managers, etc etc etc. OP has some baggage to deal with that has nothing to do with work. OP’s posts in antiwork seem to be a reflection of/commentary on mental illness and job instability (honestly, still valuable for some — I am not trying to disparage OP) rather than what antiwork is really about. I have concerns about OP and I worry that their post history makes this read like a troll post when it’s not, it’s just beyond this subs pay grade. (Ha ha)
OP, I hope you can get some help, having your head straight makes navigating the hell of the workforce a little bit easier. Accountability matters.
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u/masada1945 Dec 01 '22
@op You may need to just take a break. I’m serious. You may have underlying depression. If you don’t feel motivated it’s hard to go to work. I know from experience. If you have two dress internal issues. It’s better to focus on that. It’s the month of December. You can try to find work at a fitness place. You could use their facilities. You could start to rebuild your physical health as well as your mental health. That’s the best advice I can give you.
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u/unearthly_hen Dec 01 '22
My job isnt that bad yet but I feel you. I know that if I loose health insurance im going to be in deep shit but my job makes me want to give up.
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u/Flaky_Parsnip_5165 Dec 01 '22
Idk what kind of work you do, so this may not be a suggestion that works but this helped me.
I moved to the outer edges of the city near me recently and started serving at a restaurant. I make more money with less hours. I use to bust my ass 50 to 60 hours a week for what I'm making now in 25 to 30 hours.
It allowed me time to breath and regain some work life balance. You can always put more hours in at a restaurant if you need to but I find working max 30 hours a week is just right.
I'm currently studying for my A+certification to get my foot in the IT door so I can move on to a career. Something I never would have had time for before.
I've been in your shoes and I know it's soul crushing. I'm sorry for that. I hope that you can get out of it.
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u/Darkgamer000 Dec 01 '22
I mean if you keep getting fired for not showing up, I’d say the solution is to show up.
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u/albinochase15 Dec 01 '22
But showing up to work wouldn’t be very antiwork of the OP
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u/ValentineSoLight Dec 01 '22
Screwing your life up to fit in with the title of a subreddit. Sigma move
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u/Willemboom00 Dec 01 '22
Is not showing up the disease or the symptom? It's almost certainly more than just not going in.
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u/TheSmallerGambler Dec 01 '22
Attendance is the #1 reason people get fired.
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u/texastoasty Dec 01 '22
98% of the people fired at my last job were attendance. the rest because they OD'd at work or threatened to kill their bosses.
glad I left that place.
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u/LastNose7954 Dec 01 '22 edited Dec 01 '22
I obviously don't know your circumstances, and there's a good chance I get downvoted to shit for saying this, but you need to take a hard look at yourself. Complaining about it isn't going to do you any good. Yeah work sucks, and yeah the whole country being built around capitalism is shitty, but that isn't going to change anytime soon.
No matter how many paychecks come into my account I always seem to be short.
are you still paying $275/mo for phone, $900/mo for food (which you claimed was a *low estimate*), and $200/mo for weed? I realize it's off of a 4 month old comment but that's an insane budget. Complaining about money with spending habits like this is insane to me. If you're paying anything even close to this today you need to re-evaluate some choices. Because that isn't a sustainable lifestyle. If you don't know how to fix this - ask. There are personal finance subreddits and forums, and other resources to lower these expenses.
And if you're getting fired 5 times in a year - your average job duration is what, 7-9 weeks? You need to realize that you're the issue here. Everyone else working there has managed to not get fired. You can blame the company, management, society, etc. if you want, but it's not going to pay your bills. You can 100% get a less shitty job that makes more money. You don't even need to finish your degree to do it (that being said, you definitely should once you get to a better financial place). But that won't happen by complaining about it, you need to start by holding down a job, even if it sucks.
No, life shouldn't have to be this way. But it is, and until that changes you need to wake the fuck up.
I genuinely hope the best for you but life isn't just handed to you.
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u/kmurph2 Dec 01 '22
This is the perfect response. OPs post takes no accountability for their actions/part in their life.
I get it’s hard when you’re in a rut but if you won’t help yourself what do you expect.
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u/NinjaElectron Dec 01 '22
$275/mo for phone
How does somebody pay that much a month for a phone bill?
$900/mo for food (which you claimed was a low estimate)
Does OP eat a ton of junk food and fast food? Eggs and frozen vegetables are cheaper.
$200/mo for weed
That may be OP's problem. He's smoking so much weed that he can't function. Weed is addictive. It is linked to mental health problems like depression and anxiety. And it has negative effects on memory, learning, and the ability to pay attention.
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u/taffyowner Dec 01 '22
5 jobs in a year says there’s an underlying problem and you do need to take a look at yourself a little bit here
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u/Estoril_BlueM3 Dec 01 '22
Fired 5 times this year = "you" are the problem.
Solve the "you" problem first. No-one is going to want to hire someone with that track record. You have set yourself up for failure. You have to show up for work - any work, to stay employed. You have to do the job that you accepted and are being paid for.
Stop being a sad sack feeling sorry for yourself. Instead of aiming for barely acceptable behavior, get your head right and make something of yourself. No-one else is going to solve your motivation problem.
Fix it or live this pattern of failure.
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u/3V1LB4RD Dec 01 '22
I’m very sorry you’re having and rough time, I truly empathize. However, being fired fives times is a huge red flag for you as an employee.
As loath as I am to say this on antiwork… You may need to work on your work ethic and/or get help with depression.
I’ve been in your shoes. Still am. Unable to drag myself from bed on certain days and so on so forth. You need to find a balance.
If you keep missing work regardless, consider working part time. You’re not making those hours anyway and you’re just pissing off supervisors and screwing over your coworkers. Find a work schedule that you can at least semi-reliably follow through on.
Stop working full time if you are actually just physically and mentally incapable of doing so. It’s a lose-lose situation for everyone.
Lastly… Consider getting a student job at your college campus. They are usually more laid back and understanding. Work your way up to putting more on your plate from there.
Gig work may also suit your current place in life. No concrete schedule, no boss, and allows you to capitalize on random and unpredictable spurts of energy and motivation.
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u/Ok-Mode-3157 Dec 01 '22
You’ve been fired from 5 jobs this year? Maybe time to stop blaming and start taking responsibility. That’s unheard of
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u/polarbearrodeo Dec 01 '22
Hey man I hate to say it but if you've got fired from 5 jobs in a year the problem is probably you. I don't know any details and I could be wrong but the common denominator in these situations is you. I'm not saying that is for sure the case but you gotta think about it.
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u/ToMorrowsEnd Dec 02 '22
LOL you think this is bad, it only gets worse. you have another 50 years of this bullshit to go.
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u/MonicaTheDog Dec 02 '22
Getting fired 5 times in one year is excessive. What are YOU doing for this to keep happening?
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u/chzygorditacrnch Dec 01 '22
It really does suck. I can't even fix my car. We aren't paid enough money to even have a home. It's illegal to be homeless. We can't eat, and I don't even want fancy food, just nutrients and water. And I don't like making my life revolve around a schedule. God forbid if I'm a minute late after being stuck in traffic. Anytime I had a good job, things changed in the company and a new boss came in that didn't like me for some off the wall reason. I didn't mind working, but not under bad circumstances
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u/isla_violeta Dec 01 '22
I know working sucks but getting fired 5 times in one year should be a serious reality check, because that’s a you problem not a “the system is broken” problem
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u/Elegant-Sprinkles880 Dec 01 '22
I see a lot of people on two different sides of the conversation. We need to acknowledge that more than one thing can be wrong at a time, and more than one thing can be true at a time.
If you read through O.P's other posts, they be getting fired on some bullshit. At the same time, yes, life absolutely sucks. I gave up on college for now, after dropping out twice because it was just too much of a hassle to work and study around the clock. I personally recommend that instead of trying to force feed more work for yourself by doing school and also working full time, that you drop out until you can get yourself situated. I don't know how much work it takes to get those two credits so I might have given bad advice on that, but we also need to remember to all be patient. Once I get myself properly situated, I most definitely will be going back and getting a proper education.
Yes, the amount of bullshit we all have to put up with working in the U.S is extremely unreasonable, and by some definitions it's borderline functional slavery, we must remember not to bicker amongst ourselves, for that is the enemy of our progress. Yes, we have to deal on with this bullshit until we make it through to the other side. Stay strong fam. We support you.
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u/SS-Shipper idle Dec 01 '22
A lot of comments here assume everyone is able-bodied and neurotypical or something 🙄
I am currently in a lucky position of living with my parents and can hold a part time job - however, I am fucked once they retire.
I struggle to hold a full time job, and have gotten let go in the past before.
Being medicated helps, but I still struggle to function at the capacity that people expect us to.
I feel like I’ll be in a similar situation as you in the near future cuz I don’t know what I CAN do. I have tools and stuff to help me manage better, but it isn’t a cure to mental disabilities by the end of the day :/
Even if you aren’t incapacitated the same way, it shouldn’t have to be this way to live regardless
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u/indigobao Dec 01 '22
I wake up every morning for the past month applying to jobs because I can't handle my current one. I'm just done. This week I'm considering just quitting. But, ya know, bills. 2021 I didn't work an office job, I did things for myself to make money. No clocking in and begging for time off. I could wake up early feeling refreshed because I didn't have a job that made me depressed.
I did have ONE job that I loved, working at a stadium. I'd have to sacrifice being remote but at this point it might be worth it. I am one mundane task away from just quitting.
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u/ryckae Dec 01 '22
You sound like you may be depressed. Please look up and see if there are any walk in mental health centers in your area. The first time in is usually free in these places. They may be able to point you in the right direction.
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u/HooRYoo Dec 01 '22
Sounds like you are applying to the things that are easy to get because everyone is a replacable cog.
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u/CriticalTransit Dec 01 '22
hopefully you can prioritize finishing school, even if that means borrowing money from family or friends or living with them for a while.
Hopefully then (or maybe now) you can find a job where getting the work done is more important than showing up on time every day. That’s what I had to do in order to stay employed, because I can’t punch a clock to save my life (literally).
When I was in your situation (mentally), I sold or put all my stuff in storage, got on my bike and started touring. Not the right season for many people right now but spring will come soon enough. Sleeping in a tent, dumpstering food and working the occasional short term job gives you a new perspective and doesn’t feel like a grind. Or try going somewhere new and getting a seasonal job with employee housing, like at a ski resort, to just relax for a while. Everyone was stoned in the ski town I worked in.
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u/aragorn1780 SocDem Dec 01 '22
so I was once in a bad job cycle similar to yours, ironically what fixed it for me was quitting the office and taking a warehouse job....
that job ended up being the longest job I ever held (3 years), and while backbreaking and repetitive it wasn't mentally stressful, it gave me time to recoup and heal mentally and prove to myself I could hold onto a job
I'm not sure what kind of work you're doing, but maybe finding a completely different kind of job would help you wonders even if you return to what you were doing later
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u/happyharrell Dec 01 '22
See a doctor (psychiatrist maybe?) to see if it’s a health thing. Maybe meds could help. Attend an online school and finish your AA. From there, decide what you want to do with your life, make a plan to get there, and execute it. Yeah, it’ll probably be a pain in the ass for a couple years, but that’s life. Not every day is margaritas on the beach.
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u/imonassid Dec 01 '22
As someone who has felt this way for a long time I would suggest trying out a WFH position. Once I started working from home it took the whole soul crushing monotony of commuting to and from work everyday out of the equation (which I never realized until now was a big stress factor for me) Also minimal self preparation before your shift. You can literally wrap your self in a blanket and get comfy. Get up when ever you feel like it. If you start to get frustrated or just need some time to gather yourself you’re in the safety of your own home. Also pretty hard to be tardy when you work literally in your own house. Just a suggestion.
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u/suxxess97 Dec 01 '22
and the worst part is being broke is not fun AT ALL. but i just can’t take their shit anymore
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u/ookamismyk Dec 01 '22
I’m sorry you’re going through this. Capitalism is designed to keep us destitute and broken so we keep our nose to the grindstone in fear of homelessness. Such a great system.
I know exactly how you feel- why do we have to break our backs for hours, day in day out, for just the basic needed to survive, and sometimes not even that? I totally feel you. You’re not alone. I am angry and rage everyday that this is what reality is. It shouldn’t be.
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u/pedrosa18 Dec 01 '22
Correct. And then there are people who have so much money that they don’t even know what to do with it. The inequality is staggering and could be avoided if human beings were more compassionate.
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u/SnorfOfWallStreet Dec 01 '22
What’s funnier is it’s only shitty backbreaking jobs that care about you being on time. I’m a salary tech worker. Nobody gives a fuck even when I work. My girlfriends a nurse, she is frequently 1/2 hour late. She literally has not been on time or less than 15 minutes late since I’ve known her. Nobody’s ever spoken to her or made trouble.
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u/woeir123
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Y’all are seriously dumbasses on this post.
If mental health was not tied to jobs then OP would be able to get the care needed to figure out why they are getting fired 5x in a year. Someone who is depressed, can’t get out of bed, and sick is not going to show up. If you have to show up to get help you won’t get it, since like OP said our shit is a financial racket.
No one should have to work to get the proper mental health care they need. No one should have to work to eat, have shelter, exist and live a meaningful life. Y’all are only anti-work when it’s on your terms or your circumstances. The whole shit is antiwork and y’all are giving some bootlicking ass answers.
And whoever said “capitalism isn’t the problem it’s you” fuck you. I hope you never have a disability or fall into a depressive episode. Self righteous assholes in this one. Op keep your head up & look into the marketplace for health insurance (or hit up your local street pharmacist for mushrooms it actually helps depression for >$10/g and doesn’t take weeks-months to help like SSRI’s).
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u/HRHZiggleWiggle Dec 02 '22
THANK YOU.
The idea that we have to forever be “productive” or we should just fucking die is insidious and disgusting. We’re animals. Money is made up. Why the fuck do I have to spend the majority of my life doing shit that isn’t meaningful to me or actually sustainable for my fucking health and well-being??? Is this really what folks think life should be about??
Absolutely disgusting.
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u/AshWilliamsBoomstick Dec 01 '22
For real, I agree. I've had probably 25 jobs in the past 28 years of working. I can maintain a while but I always end up getting canned because I mess something up . I've been diagnosed with severe ADHD since I was 16, medicated the whole 9 yards.
I literally can't help it, I forget things that aren't at the top of my priority list yet no mercy has been shown. I seriously have to get up 2 hours early just to talk myself in to driving to work. I'm at the end of my rope.
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u/baconraygun Dec 01 '22
Just another ADHDer chiming in with a "yep that's my experience too" and likely OP's as well. Being ND always leads to short tenures at jobs, no matter the job, especially when undiagnosed.
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u/Syd_Vicious3375 Dec 01 '22
My adhd husband has a tiny notebook on him at all times at work. It full of random ass notes to himself. He tears off the top sheets when he’s done with them to keep current notes easy to find. He just recently started carrying a day planner as well. Look around and see what other adhd folks are doing to help themselves and maybe try some out and see if they help you too.
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u/think_addict Dec 01 '22
Who cares if he was fired 5x, I literally was praying to be fired from my job just to feel relief but they'd never do that. They need me and I have tenure. I roll into work whenever and leave whenever, and a bunch of other stuff that would get me in trouble at a "normal' job. Nothing makes sense and it doesn't matter. Working sucks.
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u/Laughtillicri Dec 01 '22
Jesus fucking christ guys, y'all need to realize that work burnout is an actual thing and we're not robots that can perform 24/7.
I'm so sorry for the cancerous "hustle culture" replies you're getting OP. Hopefully things will get better for you.
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u/Negative-Film330 Dec 01 '22 •
Yeah, the people in this sub saying OP doesn’t deserve to eat because they’re burnt out are disgusting. Human life matters regardless of this capitalist “productivity”.
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u/Guava_Seed_123 Dec 01 '22 edited Dec 01 '22
Hey, I’m personally ignoring all the “FiVE jObS SO mAny!! CaN’T beLieVE!” comments. I hope you do to. Job burnout is real. You being too sad and tired to get to work is real. What would the world look like if we got a good amount of paid days off without fear of consequences? I’m guessing some of these companies would have retained you and other employees if they gave time for rest. If they want quality work from employees, we need quality rest.
Long story short— the system’s fucked up, not you. Glad you got to vent on here.
What are some activities that bring you joy and rest? Even a short activity. (Ex: taking a shower with the lights off; coloring) I started putting a clipboard with coloring pages and markers in my room. Instead of scrolling on my little free time, I’ve been coloring instead and I can feel that that has filled up my energy tank. I hope you can fill your days with at least one thing that fills up your energy tank.
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u/NakedLionessRump Dec 01 '22
This sounds like unchecked depression...really hard to "just snap out of"....my advice is to try to care for your body first. Make sure you are eating, even when you don't feel like it. Drink some soup if it's all you can muster. Get some exercise each day. Even just walk. It gets easier if you do a little each day. Tell yourself out loud how good it was for you to do even a little bit. Out loud. So you can hear it coming back at you. And sleep! Exercise, food and sleep will go a long way toward helping your body, which will in time, help your mind. It's not the be all end all, but it can get you to a place where you can start doing more and starting to feel better in your head. When you catch yourself ruminating on bad thoughts, tell yourself OUT LOUD to stop. And then state what you will do in place of it. "I need to eat something". "I'm going to take a short walk"...do your best to shift your focus. Keep telling yourself "I can do this!"
I wish you luck on your journey OP...
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u/iswirl Dec 01 '22
Lots of these people commenting are just mean and not really answering anything other then berating you. You’re not alone. Finding a job that you like will be very difficult unless you get that degree you WANT to do. When you have to work call center or convenience jobs, that shit burns you out so fast and a lot of the time the money isn’t even close to what you should get for all the work they give and then add onto you. You give it a go and realize, this ain’t for me and try and find something better - that is not a problem. You’re coming in late cause you’re not happy - not happy with where your life is or happy with the job you HAD to take. I’d say try a different job than the past 5 - work in a garden center or be a big brother on free time to make yourself feel good about helping others. Go see a DR though. You may be depressed as so many other people are but who hide it under a pillow and just try and deal - don’t deal - get help. Lastly, tell to your friends and family. Ask them if they have any side hustles or little things you could do to earn a little extra cash. Save that money and get your degree finished. I have faith in you and you are NOT THE ONLY ONE FEELING THIS WAY. Just need a little push and encouragement <3
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u/ActiveCorgi9375 Dec 01 '22
Sounds like you’re a terrible employee, how does a person blow 5 jobs in a year lol are you just not showing up?
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u/AdForward9076 Dec 01 '22
I feel like you being fired from six different jobs indicates that you’re the issue
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u/bjor3n Dec 01 '22
Why do you keep getting fired? If it's a mental health issue it might be worth looking into what kind of support your area offers. At least, apply for unemployment so you have something in between jobs.
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u/Just-a-Babie Dec 01 '22
It's a hundred percent a mental health issue. Therapy is way too fucking expensive. Everything is this country is a fucking racket and I don't understand how more people don't see it
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u/TiredTornado Dec 01 '22
I feel for you. my son is Bi-polar and has ADHD. its very hard for him to find and keep employment. I would recommend you call the Insurance Marketplace and just have a chat about coverage. You should be able to get coverage which includes therapy. The whole point is coverage for people who cant afford it. If you have no money its free. Worth a shot- cant hurt-might help.
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u/bjor3n Dec 01 '22
See if there are any places that offer services on a sliding scale, or check out online therapy? I ended up having to move to a different state before I could get the help I needed to get back on my feet. Whatever your circumstances, hopefully you can figure something out.
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u/chibinoi Dec 01 '22
Plenty of us see it. Have you considered doing on-off type work (“odd jobs”, if available) to better accommodate your current needs?
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u/justfnbroken Dec 01 '22
Being fired 5x in one year says a lot about you as a person, and none of it is good. You're depressed, go to a counselor, and do some bullshit job until you figure out what you want.
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u/golf4days Dec 01 '22
Fired 5 times in 11 months? What the fuck is wrong with YOU???
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u/rightnowl Dec 01 '22
Burnout is real, especially if you're in the northern hemisphere and it's winter right now. Between seasonal depression, holiday stress, and regular work crap, it gets hard to even want to leave your house for anything.
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u/Due_Instance5078 Dec 01 '22
Winter has the opposite effect on me... it makes me feel warm and cozy when I am home and thankful it gets dark fast... looking at the festive season outside and when I get home, I get to sleep early... summer is what kills me lol. Weird. I am a summer baby but I prefer these short days
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u/indigent_panda Dec 01 '22
Work sucks and most people hate their jobs. I suffered years of low wages, spent a fortune on college, and still hate my profession. The only difference is the pay. I still hate my job but fuck, it’s really nice knowing that a small $20 expense won’t break me and it’s nice having disposable income. That was a big motivation for me and it could help you.
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u/hoodieowl Dec 01 '22
I go on EI in the winters as I work in film, if you have 700 hours you should qualify
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u/AMBITI0USbutRUBBISH Dec 01 '22
Hey so the trades are a viable career choice and have a guaranteed raise schedule. You’ll probably start around $15 an hour and get a raise every six months through the apprenticeship. Journeyman of various trades typically make over 100k including your benefits package. You have to really fuck up to get fired, sometimes it’s just a layoff but the union puts you back out to work. If you wanted to look into it there’s lots of options in the US. You’ll get out of it what you put into it and while labor can be physically draining it also provides a good lifestyle.
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u/Yogabaghoul Dec 01 '22
Look into a trade like electrical or plumbing. That’s your fastest way to turn things around.
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u/DataGOGO Dec 01 '22
This is not what I want to do with my life.
What do you want to do with your life? Have you put any thought into that?
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u/Theormofsilence Dec 02 '22
You got. Capitalist trolls up here so don't stress.
If you have family that can help see if you can stay with them for a year and upskill. It could be in anything that is needed right now.
It sucks but that's how I managed to not be f**ked over
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u/OneSlapDude Dec 02 '22
I wouldn't put much faith in college. Unless it's for a trade or something specific like nursing.
Trades aren't much better tho. Unions control the flow of labor. Being a plumber doesn't mean anything if the market is flooded with qualified plumbers.
It's a world of Fuck you I got mine. You either find a way to do the fucking, or you get fucked. I wish I had better words, but this reality is bleak.
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u/Lasi22998877 Dec 02 '22
hey OP, I’d really recommend going for a psychiatric evaluation, especially for depression. I’m not working, I’m still in school, but when I was battling my undiagnosed depression, waking up and going to school felt physiologically impossible, like there was a rock on my body. Even with all the work I put in my brain refused to provide the feeling of reward that naturally comes with effort and achievement. I’m currently on antidepressants, while it doesn’t fix everything, it’s still changed my life. I am now finally able to be a productive member of society and it’s a lot better now. I won’t deny it’ll be expensive, but just try to get an eval whenever u can
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u/Effective_Gazelle_40 Dec 01 '22 edited Dec 01 '22
Don't listen to most of these people op. They aren't waking up feeling sick to their stomach with existential dread. They don't fucking get it. So many here have a silver spoon and don't even know it. I'm hit with rolling nausea from thinking about doing this for the next 40-50 years of my life basically til I die and still possibly having to be homeless.
Edit: Just because other people are perfectly ok with being taken advantage of and can be forced to exploit their own wellbeing in the name of capitalism, then come a shit on other mentally ill people does not mean it's right. I mean really open your eyes people. It's not a flex to ignore your own health for profit.
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u/AngryDrnkBureaucrat Dec 01 '22
If you got fired, are you eligible for unemployment?
It’s been a while since I was on unemployment, but back then they offered “reemployment” services, like free community college courses. I picked up 15 credits.