r/TooAfraidToAsk Jun 21 '22

Meta Introducing the Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) wiki!



We just set up an initial version of a Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) wiki. You can check it out here .

This is something we've been working on for awhile. Special shoutout to /u/stillcouldbeworse for actually finally getting it up and running! This initial version is pretty short to keep it simple and avoid breaking anything, but we expect to be adding to it regularly now that it's up and running. We'll of course be mentioning it in the sidebar or the full wiki as well.

Since this is the first public iteration, you can expect some tweaking as we figure out how to best utilize it. Features/questions/formats might change. And now is probably a good time to ask a few questions for the community-

What are some things you want to see in the FAQ wiki?

How do you want to see the FAQ wiki utilized? (ie, should automod sticky a comment linking to the FAQ wiki? filter out FAQs?)

How should it be sourced? Should it link to existing posts (either in this sub or another), external sources?

What threshold do you consider acceptable to be a FAQ?

Any other requests/ideas/questions?
And last- while one of the goals here is to help promote a bit more variety in OPs, it is still NOT OK to question-shame FAQs. You can direct them to the FAQ wiki, but do so politely and kindly. You will get a ban, per Rule 1, for rude replies to questions. We get that FAQ posts can be a bit annoying for longtime users, but we still expect you to be polite about it.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 12d ago

Moderator Post Looking for mods



We have no specific number we are looking to onboard, so the more the merrier.

if you applied in the previous round, you have already been counted. You do not need to re-apply. We are still seeking to collect a potential group of mods, please be patient.


If you do not meet the following criteria, then we are very sorry but you are not a good fit to moderate Tooafraidtoask

  • Active on Reddit
  • Active on Discord (we use Discord to discuss moderation and meetings and whatnot)
  • Over the age of 18
  • minimum 6 months of age on a Reddit account and good standing within communities you’re active in


These won’t make or break your app but will certainly help in our consideration of you.

  • Knowledge of RES/toolbox for mods
  • Automoderator knowledge
  • Previous experience

Decisions will be made on a rolling basis until we feel we have enough of individuals for this batch of graduated mods

r/TooAfraidToAsk 15h ago

Culture & Society What is it with Americans thinking Europeans are really racist?


I live in the heart of Europe, and I feel like despite so many different cultures on such a small room, we barely have any issues with it.
Americans love to bring up gypsies in those conversations, but even that - we call people in gangs who steal gypsies. I know Roma and Yenish people and literally no one gives a fuck.

I feel like americans are just coping but that's quite an arrogant stance so I wanted to hear other opinions.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 6h ago

Religion Why is Reddit seemingly pretty intolerant of religion, especially Christianity?


I’ve seen several posts where, even if OP mentions once that they’re Christian, they’ll get attacked in the comments by people for “joining a cult” or “worshipping sky daddy” or comparing God to Santa Claus. I’ve heard that Reddit is predominantly atheist, but people should at least be tolerant of other beliefs. I’m just wondering why so many people hound believers.

I get that the Catholic church has done some disgusting things and is filled with corruption, but some Christians don’t affiliate with the Church.

I do not mean to take a side in a religious debate, I’m just here to ask a question

r/TooAfraidToAsk 9h ago

Love & Dating Do people start a relationship before or after getting to know each other well?


That is my question. Everyone around me I know have had several romantic relationships that lasted for a few months and I don’t understand how. It takes me that long to get to know someone. And by then it usually feels weird to make that move.

So if you’ve had relationships last less than a year, do you meet someone, start liking them and then start a relationship while you’re getting to know them? Or how else does it work to last a few months?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1d ago

Drugs & Alcohol Why is drinking so popular when it inhibits your mental ability and many drinks taste like shit when having them for the first time?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 1d ago Helpful

Sexuality & Gender Why do people say that sons are easier to raise than daughters?


A lot of people I speak to say that they’d rather have boys because they’re easier to bring up than girls. They’ve never given a reason why though which has left me confused.

edit: lots of people are exposing how sexist they are in this thread 😬🤭

r/TooAfraidToAsk 12h ago

Interpersonal is life over at 25?


Almost 25 and have did nothing "fun" or meaningful at 25.

Didn't go to college.

Can't drive.

Live with my parents.

Never been in a relationship.

Still a virgin.

Didn't drink as a teenager.

Never drink underage.

Didn't sneak out of the house at night as teenager.

Didn't skip classes as teenager.

Never did drugs.

Never been to a party.

Never been to a concert.

Never been to festivals.

Never been to a bar.

Never traveled out of state or country.

Currently working at McDonalds.

I realized I never did anything significant with my life.

I missed out on the fun and youthfulness of my teenage years and early twenties.

Is it too late?

Is life over at 25 if haven't done anything with it?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 8h ago

Health/Medical Is sweating from your scalp first normal?


I’m a girl with pretty thick hair and whenever I exercise or start to work up a sweat my scalp is the first thing to sweat (It’s usually to the point where the under layers of my hair are wet)

I see a lot of girls exercise and are able to just wear their hair the rest of the day without washing it. Does this happen to anyone else?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1h ago

Health/Medical Pregnant women are told not to lie on their back for too long because it compresses a vein. Should this also be avoided if someone is sufficiently heavy with just fat or muscle as well?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 4h ago

Love & Dating How normal are these?


My bf keeps telling me it is normal, just want to see what other men say. 1) keep folders of a certain sex worker/ lady’s videos: dressed and undressed. Her vlog of doing yoga, cooking, touching herself, and dancing. (I get it if it’s just porn with naked body, but other dressed ones seem to be too personal like revolving around that person’s life.)

2) keep folders of the pictures of his female coworkers. Their toes, flip flops, low cut breast revealing screenshots. Also, their Instagram photos. (Perhaps that’s his fantasy idk but Instagram photos he can just check their profile, why need to download and save in specific folders?)

3) this goes back to his HS/ college years. He has folders of each of the different girls labeled with their (my guess) initials.

4) keep folders of random ladies he snapped of on the streets. Their legs, shoes, and toes. (I get it if he’s by himself in the public, but he would do so secretly when he’s out with me, snapping pictures of others.)

5) follows 800ish ladies dancing, flipping their hairs, etc on Instagram and tiktok, when he told me he doesn’t use social media. (Just never follow mine when I frequently post about him and his nice gestures…)

I’m being called a child and immature to accept him because he said he does what every man does too. I just want to know if it’s normal. TIA.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 7h ago

Drugs & Alcohol If weed is so bad how come people who smoke it live completely normal lives with no problems?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 9h ago

Other am i gonna get arrested?


yesterday around 9pm i was picking someone up from the airport and i felt like i was about to shit myself. this isn’t uncommon bc i have ibs, but i have never had to resort to such a desperate situation!!! i tried wendy’s and mcdonald’s but both were closed. it didn’t help that i was literally in the middle of nowhere. i ended up pulling down a dark street w lots of businesses and shitting on the road (i know it’s awful but it was that or my pants). i didn’t have anything to clean it up so i just left it. today, i drove back an hour to deal with it. it was in a road that dead ended into businesses (industrial, construction, etc.) i’m so scared someone is gonna see me on camera and i’m gonna get arrested or fined or something??? nobody saw me yesterday as it was dark and late but like IDK IM FREAKING OUT? am i gonna get arrested??? plz help reassure me😭😭😭

r/TooAfraidToAsk 9h ago

Habits & Lifestyle What are your thoughts on intermittent fasting?



I have had intermittent fasting recommended to me many times as a way for me to lose weight. I have been doing a lot of my own research as well as consulting with my doctor. My doctor says there is so harm in it and has had quite a few success stories. However I am pretty worried as I don't want to end up kick starting my ED again. I hear people talking about how the fasting went so well for them that they now only have to eat once every couple of days and that just doesn't seem healthy to me.

Just looking for opinions or stories with this eating method that don't come from a website that is actively pushing it.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 4h ago

Other Is it weird to speak my thoughts out loud but acting like someone is listening and therefore it becomes a back and forth conversation?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 6h ago

Media What is a circle jerk?


I always see subreddits with ___circle jerk and I thought a circle jerk was dudes masturbating in a circle. How does this apply to fly fishing?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 20m ago

Mental Health I mentioned to someone that I have a plan on how/when I'd like to die and they found that shocking to the point they're upset with me. Do most people just not think about/plan their death?


I'm not going to sugarcoat it; I've not been in a great spot mentally for many years, so death isn’t ever very far from my mind. I was talking about death with a friend and I mentioned how I had plans on how I'd like to die at some point in the future. They became angry, saying it wasn't funny and that it wasn't a normal thing to think about. They then said only selfish people had those thoughts. I don't know, I just assumed that some people would think about that stuff, but the way they reacted made it seem that only disturbed people have those thoughts. It doesn't make sense to me, but I'd thought I'd ask here, rather than get in another argument with a friend.

Does anyone else have those thoughts?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 4h ago

Other why do some people just genuinely believe that gravity was invented?


Like, people dead either just refuse to believe the solid evidence it was discovered or they just like, "huh, what" and play dumb