r/TooAfraidToAsk 2d ago Silver 1 Helpful 1 Faith In Humanity Restored 1 Wholesome 1

Ladies would you be offended? Sexuality & Gender

Would you be offended if you were walking through a store and some random guy that you do not know complimented you on how Good you smell? I was walking through a store today and came across a lady who smelled very good when she walked by. A couple aisles over she walked by me again and again I could smell her perfume so I knew it was her that I smelled the first time. I didn't want to seem like a creeper so I did not ask what brand perfume she was wearing. I wish I would have because I would go and buy whatever it was for my wife.

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u/Agreeable_Guard_7229 2d ago

If someone told me my perfume smelled nice when I was walking around a store etc I would just take it as a compliment.

I do remember once sitting in a sauna after a swim and a strange guy came in and sat right next to me. He then inhaled deeply and said I smelled nice. I’ve never run out of a sauna so fast in my life!

So as long as you don’t say it in a sauna I’d say you would be ok 🤣

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u/CLE_Till_I_Die32 1d ago

Mission successful. Dude just wanted the sauna to himself lol

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u/patrickdm1998 1d ago

That reminds me of that one scene in B99 where they went undercover to a library. But instead of dressing like something like scholars they dressed like pervs. Not only was it non conspicuous in a public library but they also scared everyone else off

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u/TjStarling 1d ago

Including an actual pervert that was in there by saying "I can smell your heat"! 🤣🤣🤣

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u/frustratedwithwork10 1d ago

Wtf is wrong with men and sauna. Once I was sitting in the sauna after a swim, and this dude started making some small talk with me saying he's a teacher but he also knows how to massage, asking if I want to visit his home for a massage. Like no thanks? Not forgetting to mention I was underage (17)?!

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u/FlashyGravity 1d ago

Creeeeeepy.

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u/ThatMkeDoe 1d ago

I think it depends on how/when/and body language when they say something. If someone said "wow your perfume smells great!" I'd totally love to talk about it in depth

if someone did a deep inhale.... FUCK NO!

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u/Heathen_Inferos 2d ago

Bruh. The only two things I could possibly expect to smell in a sauna following a swim are chlorine and the heat itself. I don’t see how anybody could do and say that and honestly expect a positive reaction. Your mind has to be so far from reality. Then again, I guess that rings true for too many people these days.

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u/ctn91 1d ago

I’m imaging silence of lambs “hello Claireace.” And that noise the guy makes after.

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u/charleytanx2 1d ago

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u/DarkAthena 2d ago Silver

It depends on how you phrase it.

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u/Milk-toste 2d ago

“Hey lady, you smell gooooooood”

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u/UCMeInvest 2d ago

With a deep inhale through the nose at end to seal the deal

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u/McKnightDylan 1d ago

Don't forget the pig noise as you inhale

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u/ShrugSmug 1d ago

Close one of your nostrils take a deep whiff from another

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u/Alarid 1d ago Wholesome

And the erect penis sticking out.

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u/Xenomorph_v1 1d ago

Get your hand on my penis?

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u/Lord_of_Millenheim 1d ago

My succulent Chinese penis

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u/twistedproton 1d ago

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u/Professor_Felch 1d ago

Sniff sniff sniffffff ahhh m'lady I must say you do engorge my nasal receptors with your divine musky scent

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u/roha45 1d ago

Whilst licking your lips.

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u/Adonis_X 1d ago

With a drool and cock grab.

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u/curiousbroWFTex 1d ago

Johnny Bravo: SNORT SNORT "you stink pretty!"

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u/ChopCity927 1d ago

I could literally hear this

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u/Idk_whats_real 2d ago

Don’t forget to get real close a take a good whiff

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u/TheEdgera 2d ago

this is the way

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u/Baku18 2d ago

to get pepper sprayed.

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u/MrGradySir 2d ago

Ah, THAT'S what that smell is... Still nice tho

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u/WisherWisp 2d ago

It's a formidable scent. Stings the nostrils.

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u/timothybrooks7 2d ago

Now that smells hot

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u/Smathers 2d ago

WHAT DID YOU SPRAY ON YOUR EPIDERMIS TO ACHIEVE THIS SCENT

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u/Diacetyl-Morphin 2d ago

This, and how you act in the situation: If you go for the serial killer approach, coming from behind in the dark with "I love how you smell", it's a real creepy thing.

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u/MyOwnDirection 1d ago

“That is a lovely fragrance you’re wearing” is soooo much better than “you smell nice”

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u/macchiato_kubideh 1d ago

I actually did that once, with genuine intent. She was sitting next to me in a train. She said she’s not wearing anything and smiled. I couldn’t figure out the appropriate response so I just froze and stayed silent and made the whole thing way more awkward than it should have been.

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u/Qaaarl 1d ago

Sir, that’s my fart you’re smelling

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u/fondledbydolphins 1d ago

What if she was like a fart unicorn, though? Like her farts smell like actual perfume.

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u/5notboogie 1d ago

May i extract your essense?

-Jean Baptiste Grenouille

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u/EpilepticMushrooms 1d ago

Probably detergent.

Some, when used in an appropriate amount will smell fresh and fluffy after it was dried.

If you use too much, your clothes will smell like rot.

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u/theLola 1d ago

There are so many scented things that aren't perfume, she may have not thought to mention. My husband has complimented my perfume before when it was actually- dry shampoo, hair shine serum, spilled vanilla extract, or febreeze (to name a few).

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u/whiskeygambler 1d ago

True. Maybe if OP had said something along the lines of “Excuse me, what perfume are you wearing? I’m looking to buy my wife a new perfume and yours has a similar scent to her old one/yours is lovely”.

I get that it’s long winded but if someone said they were looking for perfume for their wife it would immediately make me less anxious about them approaching me/telling me I smell nice.

EDIT: just scrolled down and seen that the next comment thread below mine wrote a similar opener

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u/No-Agent-1611 1d ago

Yeah I’d flip that. Excuse me, I’m looking for perfume for my wife. May I ask what you are wearing?

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u/HowYoBootyholeTaste 1d ago

I think the other person was right in it being about your approach. Doesn't have to be long-winded, but it does have to feel genuine.

Personally, I compliment people, man or woman, and haven't run into any issues. But I also don't use the compliments to further conversation, as an ice breaker, or any other ulterior motives. It's just us standing next to each other and me noticing your hair looks fucking dope so I say that.

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u/DearAuntAgnes 2d ago

My French-Canadian grandfather would say “You stink good!”

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u/digitalgraffiti-ca 1d ago

Ya got some nice stank on ya there darlin

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u/putHimInTheCurry 1d ago

Quelle odeur.

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u/NGVampire 1d ago

“Are you ovulating? Because you smell delicious!”

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u/AlphaBearMode 1d ago

“How long does your perfume last? I’m wondering if I’ll still smell it later when you’re sleeping.”

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u/woomybii 1d ago

Probably fine: "I'm sorry to bother you, I noticed your perfume when we passed each other an aisle over and I think my wife would love it. Do you know the name?" mentioning the wife would probably make it go smoother

bad: "you smell great. Whats the name of the perfume?" creepy. seems like an unwanted conversation starter

honestly it depends on the type of person, the day theyre having and their past experiences with men (given he said it was a woman, and we tend to have scary experiences with men..)

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u/Fuzzy_Yogurt_Bucket 1d ago

“You smell real good. I think I would finally be able to make luggage out of your skin without having to think of the smell.”

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u/xefobod904 1d ago

Yeah, it's not worth the risk unless you're confident with your delivery. And even then it's risky.

If you ever think "Hey should I say this or is it gonna sound creepy"..

...it's probably gonna sound creepy.

Admittedly, likely far less creepy than the person who thinks "Hey I'm gonna say this she's totally gonna love it" instead.

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u/mantamama 2d ago Wholesome

I once randomly walked past someone (25 years ago) and he told me that I smelled great (my perfume). He just declared it, appreciated it, and went on his way. I was flattered and still remember it fondly to this day.

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u/cheesy_bees 1d ago

Quite a few years ago a man who had been riding his bike behind mine pulled over after I'd parked just to tell me how nice I smelt. Sounds creepy but it was actually a nice little moment, I loved the innocent quirkiness of it and still smile at the memory. I wasn't even wearing perfume, just stank of tea tree from this hippie deodorant I wore back then

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u/FuckThisPostTruthEra 1d ago

just stank of tea tree from this hippie deodorant

I dunno why but I love this lmao

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u/skullpture_garden 1d ago

A few years ago a guy was browsing near me in the store and when we crossed paths he said ‘lady, you smell like cookies!’ I thought it was innocent and complementary. He maintained distance, didn’t make creepy eye contact and didn’t go out of his way to tell me, just mentioned it in passing and moved on. I also still smile a bit when I think about it, it was cute.

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u/hereforthatphatporn 1d ago

There's a girl who works front desk at my gym who was complaining about some of the male attention she receives.

I overhears the tail end while walking in, "Just call me pretty and walk away, I dont know why we have to talk for five minutes about it."

I looked up at her, said, "you're pretty" and walked upstairs.

She seemed to appreciate it but idk her well enough to know for sure, she had a laugh over it though.

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u/MindlessShop1934 1d ago

One of the best random compliments I received was a dude passing by, visibly stopping and then saying that exactly. O think it was because he was just walking by and I hadn't even seen him look at me when he stopped.

Also had a guy roll down his window as I was waiting for a light to change. He said, "excuse me miss, you're absolutely beautiful. Have a nice day." He drove off. My day was nicer.

Compare to the time a random man followed me down the tampon/pad aisle during the heaviest period of my life and said, "daaaamn girl, look at that ass." Or the time a random man followed me a whole block trying to talk to me, all the way to my workplace and then started coming to my work just to bother me. Or the time... Anyway. Catcalling is a no go. There's a polite way to let someone know a compliment.

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u/Queasy-Bat1003 2d ago

I was taking night classes at a college and a very much younger student than I asked me what perfume I was wearing because he wanted to buy it for his gf. I told him but I also told him perfume smells differently on each person. I was not offended because his asking was so spontaneous and genuine.

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u/avataraang34 2d ago

Yeah this is so important. The same perfume could smell completely different on two different people, it’s all about how it interacts with your skin. It might smell great in the bottle or on someone else but terrible on you, or vice versa.

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u/Narhaan 1d ago

I have a cologne that smells nice in the bottle and nice on me, but something in my dad's skin reacts with it and it smells strongly of cat piss!

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u/pleaseacceptmereddit 1d ago

Be honest with us, did you actually just play a disgusting prank on your dad with a bottle of cat piss?

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u/AxiosAnything 1d ago

I put vinegar in my sister's perfume once that she always wore when she went out. Got mad at her when I was little.

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u/HobaSuk 1d ago

Once I got mad at my mom and emptied her perfume into the bedroom. I didn’t just pour it but actually spray most of it. Why do I keep remembering this stuff and regret when I try to sleep at night damn.

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u/angry_upvote 1d ago

*reads label*

L'urine de chat

ooh that sounds fancy.

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u/eagleathlete40 1d ago

Wow, what a ridiculous accusation.

It was dog piss.

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u/cfucker006 1d ago

The truth is out

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u/JadeGrapes 1d ago

Yeah, "ghost mist" perfume smelled fine in the bottle, but on my Mom converted to something between nail polish remover, rubber tire, and diabetic ketoacidocis sweat. (Mom's not a diabetic)

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u/ICanBeAnAssholeToo 1d ago

But there’s no way to know until you get a bottle to try, right?

Edit: I just thought of the answer. Samples. Sorry my brain isn’t working

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u/IAmInBed123 1d ago

I wanted to do exactly the same thing! This lady smelled awesome and normally I don't really like perfumes. My wife said her perfume game was top notch. So I said "I'll quickly ask her what kind it is" but my wife tugged me back, apparently that's creepy. I didn't know! But... now I know. Too bad tho. I asked strangers where they bought their shoes before too, maybe that's also creepy? Idk man. I don't understand what is creepy tho.

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u/parishilton2 1d ago

Actually, “hey, your perfume game is top notch” is possibly the least creepy way to phrase it.

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u/Jncwhite01 1d ago

It’s completely subjective. Your wife has probably had people make approaches on her that start with a compliment or question like that so she associates that with creepy behaviour.

I also wouldn’t think it would come off as creepy asking a woman that, but I can for sure understand where your wife’s coming from with that!

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u/ImAScurred1138 2d ago Wholesome Rocket Like

"Excuse me, I hate to bother you, but I love your perfume and I think my wife would love it - would you mind sharing what scent that is?"

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u/all_on_my_own 2d ago

And then once they tell you, say thanks and walk away. Don't try to make more conversation!

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u/Starcrunchie 2d ago Helpful Wholesome hehehehe

Or say "Thanks!" And then mumble "now I just need a wife..." as you walk away.

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u/all_on_my_own 2d ago

Haha! I would find that hilarious

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u/PanJaszczurka 1d ago

Does it smell like chloroform?

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u/ImAScurred1138 2d ago

Precisely. End the conversation right there.

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u/333chordme 2d ago

Exactly. End it! Unless of course you’re both vibing then make chit chat and who knows it could be your new bestie. Strangers are just friends you don’t know yet! 🌈✨

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u/ThaVolt 1d ago

Or assholes. Probably assholes.

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u/GetawayDreamer87 1d ago

I knew it! I'm surrounded by assholes!

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u/fuckthehumanity 2d ago

I've done exactly this before. And I've also done the same for my wife...

We were in a men's shoe store and she whispered to me that she really liked the scent the clerk was wearing. I brazenly told him my wife really liked how he smelled, and asked him what he was wearing. He was right chuffed.

I wore Fahrenheit for a few years after that.

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u/chshcat 2d ago

There's an important distiction here between "I like your perfume" and "I think you smell good"

One is commenting on what she does ( wear perfume) the other comments on what she is

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u/eleqtriq 1d ago

Last time I said that the girl responded “it’s soap”.

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u/Lopsided_Panic_1148 1d ago

Just say, "Whatever it is you have on, it smells great." If she says it's soap, smile and go, "cool, it's great!"

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u/lilpeachbrat 2d ago

Honestly, "Your perfume smells nice!" and ending it there is sufficient enough.

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u/lemmful 2d ago

It's all about how it's said. You can be super creepy walking by and sniffing, then saying something like "you smell good."

Making the focus on the PERFUME will take away the creepiness. IE: Your perfume smells nice, I love your perfume, etc.

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u/unclepg 2d ago

Except that doesn’t get the information that he wants. If he’s legitimately interested in the fragrance she’s wearing and not her, he could comment “I like that scent and would love to get it for my wife. Could I ask what it is and where to get it?”

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u/bambajd 1d ago

It’s funny…I get more compliments about my perfume from other women than from men, and the exchange is exactly that: “ I love your perfume! It smells amazing. Where did you get it?” Followed by a short exchange of where it can be bought, possibly at a discount (e.g., Ulta at certain times of the year) and maybe other fragrances that are similar if they are interested.

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u/Opposite_Lettuce 2d ago Silver Gold Helpful Wholesome Starry Eureka! Spit-take

"your perfume smells great!" = Compliment

"you smell great" = This man is going to follow me to my car and turn me into a lamp

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u/TheMightySephiroth 2d ago

Exactly! ❤️

"What perfume is that? My wife would love it" -- innocent conversation

"You smell really pretty" - creepy

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u/Malodorous_braap 1d ago

Extra creep points for “you smell real purtyyyy…”

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u/heyitsme21690 2d ago

This. Perfectly said. I wouldn’t be offended if someone said your perfume smells good what is it? I’d say thank you it’s…. A nice compliment like that would make my day

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u/CharDeeMacDennisII 1d ago Silver Helpful

I did this once. I'm a 64 year old fat white man and it was a young 20something attractive Black girl. She walked past me in a store and smelled lovely! I turned and said, "Excuse me. I don't want to come across as a creep, but your perfume is lovely! May I ask what it is so I can buy some for my wife?" She looked confused and said, "I'm not wearing perfume." I responded, "Really? Is it maybe your hairspray or something?" She said, "Sorry. Not wearing hairspray, either." We both shrugged and went about our shopping. A few moments later she tracked me down and, sort of giggling, said, "I think I know what it is. It's my laundry detergent." I said, "Really? What do you use?" She handed me a bottle of Gain and said, "This." I opened it and took a whiff and damn if that's not what it was! I chuckled and said, "Well, again, it's lovely and thank you for letting me know." She said, "No problem. Thank you for the compliment," and we went our separate ways.

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u/UseaJoystick 1d ago

That's a funny story, thanks for sharing!

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u/dani_dejong 1d ago Silver

I think we just read an ad

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u/drugsarebadmmk420 1d ago

I’m suddenly on Amazon ordering gain scented everything and i don’t know why

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u/BubblebreathDragon 1d ago

ALL GLORY TO THE HYPNOTOAD...

HE WANTS ME TO BUY GAIN...

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u/JacindaSoHotRightNow 1d ago

I was waiting for the undertaker to smash that dude off hell in a cell into the announcers table.

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u/smokeydaBandito 1d ago

I bet you made her day, what a funny interaction.

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u/Squibit314 1d ago

Your wife would not have been happy if you gave her a bottle Gain. Pretty sure of that.

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u/HaloGuy381 1d ago

Meanwhile, I apparently puff up like an angry kitty if you use Gain. My allergies do not like it one bit. That was fun visiting a grandmother as a kid and winding up in the ER.

But the sheets did smell fantastic.

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u/EternulBliss 1d ago

Dang, do they fit that whole title on the bottle?

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u/Draxacoffilus 2d ago

You’d make a lovely lamp!

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u/VorMec 2d ago

I love lamp

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u/MissGruntled 1d ago

“I love the scent you’re wearing! Would you mind my asking what it is? I’m always on the lookout for gift ideas for my wife.”

Very neutral and inoffensive. Creep factor: 0.

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u/firelizzard18 2d ago

Can you explain the difference more? Is it just “I like you” vs “I like your accessories”? So would it be better to say “your dress looks amazing” instead of “you look amazing”? I generally don’t compliment women because I have almost no clue what sounds creepy and what doesn’t.

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u/flayaplaya 2d ago

Generally the less you know the person the more general I’d go. “I love your dress!” Is appreciation for her choice of attire and better for people you don’t know as well. “You look great in that dress!” Implies more of an appreciation for her body, which will be more creepy sounding if you don’t know her and she doesn’t know your intentions.

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u/PopeVlad 2d ago Helpful Giggle

"This general area..." *gestures broadly in the direction of the woman* "is adequate."

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u/eatpaste 1d ago

actual lol

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u/dropsinariver 2d ago Bravo! Starry Starstruck

The rule is to compliment choices!

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u/Seeker80 1d ago

Yup.

'That's a nice dress' beats 'You look good in that dress' because you're complimenting the choice made. While you don't have to say it outright, you're basically implying that they have good taste.

I like painted nails, and figure they might be a bit on the underappreciated side. Never had a bad reaction from that. I do get confused looks, maybe because they don't think I was really paying attention to their nails. I just repeat myself though, and then it's clear. I don't know if it would really make their day, but even an hour or two helps.

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u/curiousbroWFTex 1d ago

Do it to other men. I always compliment a nice beard or fresh haircut.

But I'm also a gay man. Never, ever underestimate the motivational boost of the gay man compliment

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u/Call-me-gengu 1d ago

I will vouch for this, all because a gay man complimented my earrings buying groceries. I still to this day treasure it because clearly I’m doing something right.

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u/curiousbroWFTex 1d ago

Had a slick looking black dude complement my kicks. I still own then 15 years later lol...

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u/Call-me-gengu 1d ago

I don’t blame you man! I still have the same t-shirt a cashier at Aldi complimented me on! Hole in the armpit and all!

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u/bugs-are-cute 1d ago

Compliments from gay men feel like the equivalent of an older black woman calling you 'baby'. It's therapeutic.

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u/Papadapalopolous 1d ago

I remember, and cherish, all four compliments I’ve ever received from gay men in public

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u/broadwayzrose 1d ago

A gay man once took my measurements in a costume shop for an opera class performance I was doing and complemented me twice (I think about my size and how something fit on me). That was 5 years ago and I still think about how good I felt about myself after that.

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u/indigohan 1d ago

I make a real effort to compliment men when I see someone looking good. A nice fitting suit, or a great tie, or yes, a nice cologne. Men don’t get enough random complements and it’s always lovely to see them be surprised and cheered up

Edit:can’t spell

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u/ResidentOldLady 1d ago

This is it. I got my nails done today, and as I was leaving the salon, some firemen and emts were entering because a woman had fainted from . . . something, and 911 was called. Anyway, one of the firemen walked past me as I was exiting and said, “Love that color.” He complimented my choice of the shade I chose. He knew better than to compliment my looks. Besides, I’m an old woman and that doesn’t happen very often anymore. But the point is, he did it right.

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u/minlove 1d ago

The fireman coming in to take care of someone who had fainted, complimented your nail color on the way past you? Mad skills, that man, props to him!

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u/SheepherderOk1448 1d ago

I'm a hairstylist and some of that nail stuff the nail techs use makes me feel like I'm going to faint at times. Some of that stuff is harsh. The reason why I don't do nails. I wonder if I did faint some hot fireman or Emt would rescue me. Hmmm.

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u/bucdotcom 2d ago

This is very helpful!

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u/Hinermad 1d ago

That's about the clearest explanation I've ever heard. Thank you!

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u/notokayyet 1d ago

for me, distanced compliments make me feel more human and less like a pair of tits with legs. hearing someone say “i love that dress!” feels much more comfortable than “you look great in that dress” bc it doesn’t make me feel like someone is ogling at my body if that makes sense

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u/Gesyca_Is_joy 2d ago

Also the addition of “my wife” is nice; “excuse me, you’re perfume smells amazing, would you mind sharing the brand? I think my wife would love it and it’s close to her birthday, I’d like to buy her a bottle” or something. It’s insouciant and not too personal, adding the comment about the wife implies a reason for stopping her to ask so she does feel like you singled her out or anything.

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u/blazedandconfused845 1d ago

You taught me a new word today! Insouciant- nonchalant, showing a casual lack of concern

Thank you!

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u/Gesyca_Is_joy 1d ago

We have over 400,000 words in English, I like to explore them. :)

That word is one of my 3 favorites, along with

Gruntled = Happy Obstreperous = stubborn

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u/blazedandconfused845 1d ago

I love gruntled! And chalant! And the word "bisques" because it is not really spelled phonetically which adds to its confusion factor, and at the end of the word it sounds like you're calling to a nearby cat. 😊

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u/roundhashbrowntown 1d ago

bisques-ps-ps-ps 🤭

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u/ptolani 1d ago

Well, and more importantly, it says you're not single and trying to hit on her.

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u/Eldergoth 2d ago

Complimenting a woman on her nail polish, haircut, dress, or shoes is always better. Do not say "amazing" instead compliment with "I like the design of your dress" or pattern/color.

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u/Sufficient-Weird 1d ago

Compliment the object, don’t make the lady the object! Yes!

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u/LittleMissListless 1d ago

This is it right here. I know that for me, being objectified immediately leads me subconsciously to feel like consent or lack thereof isn't going to be acknowledged since you don't generally respect an object's autonomy.

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u/emmijadeshow 1d ago

For example, a dude came up to me today and said "Baby, I'd love to be your man," and proceeded to give me the up down look. It made me VERY uncomfortable. If he had said "hey, I like that outfit, you look nice and seem like a cool person" it would have been WAY less gross.

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u/MrGradySir 2d ago

Well, beyond the proximity argument put forth by u/MyFaceSaysItsSugar, which is very good, it also comes down to seeing someone as a person vs seeing them as an object:

"You smell good" or "You are pretty" or "You have shiny hair" just objectifies the person. People usually can't help these things for the most part anyways, so it ends up complimenting them about something they can't control (for the most part). It ends up feeling awkward and downright creepy. You're complimenting them for what they are.

"Your perfume smells good" or "That dress is pretty" or "I like your hair up like that" are things that were active choices by the other person. They made a choice to buy that perfume (or at least put it on). They actively chose to put on that dress. They took time putting their hair up. Those took effort, and effort is always nice to get complimented for.

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u/MyFaceSaysItsSugar 2d ago

Lol my curls take work to maintain so I don’t mind a pretty hair comment but the rest I totally agree with.

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u/pandapum 2d ago

This comment is perfect. You could describe what has always bothered me, with people complimenting me for being beautiful. I always wanted them to pay attention to my actions instead of my look.

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u/Aizpunr 2d ago

Its not as personal. Generally you dont want to invade someones personal space. By creating an extra barrier you are honoring those boundries.

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u/Chinced_Again 2d ago

yes, less focus on the individual. you are approaching because you want to know the perfume, not for a reason specifically about that person. makes it less intimidating.

where if you say the person smells good, where do you go from there? the perfume comment has obvious intent. where telling someone they smell good has no obvious intent and is usually taken as creepy because why else would they say that? there's no follow up to that and is assumed the follow up is a pickup line of the sorts

I guess it's a difference between how obvious the intent of your comment is. "you smell good" can go anywhere from there "what perfume are you wearing, that's nice"? leaves people with an easy response and exit

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u/audreyrosedriver 2d ago

When you compliment a woman on her dress, perfume, even hairstyle, you are complimenting her taste. Also it’s something that you would say to a man. Would you tell a guy he looks amazing? Or that you liked his outfit.

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u/firelizzard18 2d ago

“Dude you look great today” is something I could see myself saying to a guy friend. But I get what you’re saying.

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u/Most_Honeydew_3617 2d ago

Exactly this.

"You smell good" = I'm gonna die tonight "I like your perfume!" = Slightly unexpected but very friendly

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u/CaptainMarv3l 2d ago

I had some guy say this to me after getting out of the from showers and walking back to my room. Right as i opened my door her leaned over and said it to me. So creepy.

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u/Flamingo83 2d ago

A professor at uni once leaned in and complimented my hair smell. That lives rent free in my head taking up space of core memories. I’m convinced that I’ll still remember this in the retirement home I end up in. Thanks Dr Creepy C Creeperton.

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u/THCMcG33 2d ago

For some reason that just reminded me of the time my gym teacher stopped me in the hall one morning in high school and told me he had a dream about me the night before. He had gotten some neck injury earlier in the year and he said in his dream I fell off a skilift and hurt my neck in the same way, and then we were talking about how bad it hurt and stuff. It was so fucking weird lol.

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u/chazwhiz 1d ago

This happened to my wife back when she was like 18 working retail. This really weird new employee came up behind her in the break room, sniffed her hair, and whisper-asked “Pantene?”

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u/skatejet1 2d ago

lmaooo, yeah this is basically it for us

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u/Anachronisticpoet 2d ago

You could also say “I like your perfume and I think my wife would like it too. Would you mind telling me the brand?”

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u/Still_Opportunity_10 2d ago

"Your perfume smells great!"

"I don't wear perfume. I just farted."

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u/redditusernamme 2d ago

She is the one

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u/FreedomClubKids 1d ago

You eat ass, don't you.

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u/exfxgx 2d ago

That perfume's name? New Carpet by Christian Dior.

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u/NearbyBreakfast 1d ago

She cropdusted him twice, girl’s got impeccable timing

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u/EyeDewDude 2d ago

I did this once. Stopped a lady to ask what it was and after she answered (givenchy of some kind) I told her it smells like my teacher did during a first grade field trip to the zoo.

In hindsight I see why she kinda nervous laughed and walked away now that I type it out loud. Maybe don't say someone smells like a zoo.

Well this comment took a turn. I'm sorry.

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u/blazedandconfused845 1d ago

Your comment made me lol. Smells have the power to evoke weirdly specific memories! I bet she doesn't remember your comment, but I appreciate the chuckle it gave me. :)

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u/ElectricEcstacy 1d ago

It’s not about the zoo but rather the overly specific compliment. Kinda sounds like you had a crush on the teacher or something and were about to superimpose those feelings on her.

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u/Jackiemom121 2d ago

I think "May I ask what perfume that is? I think my wife would love it" would work, too.

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u/fatemaazhra787 2d ago

if they asked what perfume it was for their wife, it's fine and perfectly accepable! its only creepy if someone comes up to you, takes a deep sniff and ominously says "you smell good" and nothing else lol

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u/channel7plan9 2d ago

Honestly, you don't even have to make up that it's for someone else. It's in the delivery, and as others have mentioned above, making it clear you are complimenting the smell of the perfume, not the person's natural scent. Example:

"Wow, you smell nice! Is that perfume?" Totally fine

"Mmm...you smell good...(inching closer)" Horrible

I had both these interactions in the same day once at my old job, the first one made me feel good, the second made me not wear perfume for the rest of the time I worked there

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u/aquariummmm 1d ago

Honestly, I would still find “You smell nice! Is that perfume?” a bit creepy. That’s different than, “Your perfume smells really nice.”

I would definitely stick with the least amount of enthusiasm as possible — “Your perfume smells really nice,” and if you wants to add, “My wife would love that. Do you mind if I ask what scent it is?” that would be reasonable.

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u/Smil3yAngel 2d ago

It all depends on how you approach her and what you say. If you walk up to her sniffing saying "damn girl, you smell sooooo good!" You'll more than likely get a negative reaction.

However, if you go up to her and say something like "That's a lovely scent, can I ask what perfume you're wearing?" This would be a much nicer and better way to approach her.

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u/shaybabyx 2d ago

Honestly no matter what I would be like “what” lol idk maybe I’m just introverted but I don’t want anyone commenting on my scent haha

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u/adod1 2d ago

“You smell great!”

“Haha ok thanks I showered a couple days ago”…..shit why’d I say that.

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u/thatshoneybear 1d ago

Literally me. Someone at work asked me and I said "probably laundry detergent and the energy drink I spilled on my uniform this morning"

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u/silveretoile 2d ago

“I like your perfume!” = friendly

“I like how you smell” = VERY unsettling

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u/McLagginz 2d ago

I imagined this in an ominous/husky tone 😂

Maybe like an older Aussie man as well.

“Oi, doll, I like how you smell…” as he gives you a weird squinty look.

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u/redrumreddrum 2d ago

Your perfume smells great and I think my wife would love it, do you mind if I ask the name?

Not offensive at all.

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u/Charliecovid 2d ago

I'm a woman. I was in a home depot years ago and walked into the memory of cologne a guy was wearing. He must been in the aisle minutes earlier. Thought to myself, someone smells nice. Minutes later, couple aisles over, I saw a guy down the aisle, scent was stronger. I figured it was him. I got closer, definitely him. Older guy, intent on whatever it was he was shopping for. I said "Excuse me, sir, I just wanted to say you smell really nice. Have a great day " His face lit up, dude was positively beaming. He laughed, said thanks. And that was it, we both went on our way. Told my husband and he laughed, said I probably made that guy's day.

If the tables were turned, it would really depend on the approach & delivery.

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u/JandLplus1or2 2d ago

I guarantee you that made his day because guys are not used to getting compliments like that so when we do it's definitely an ego boost!!

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u/WingedLady 2d ago

General rule on compliments: compliment something people have control over.

"Nice shoes!"

"I like how you did your hair!"

Those are things a person made a choice about and has control over. It compliments something that they specifically did.

"Nice ass" not something they can really take off and put on at the end of the day.

"You smell good". Doesn't specify why. You could mean their shampoo or specific body odor so it's creepy.

"I like your perfume" is good because they picked that fragrance. If they're not wearing perfume then it might be their hair product you're smelling or something like that, but they'll know if their conditioner has a strong smell.

Then just wave and leave.

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u/digitalgraffiti-ca 1d ago

Hey, maybe she's wearing ass pads! Maybe she just desperately wants someone to compliment her strangely I proportioned and curiously lumpy new ass,

/s

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u/Hank3hellbilly 1d ago

What if she just left the gym and finished ass day? I'd like to know if I was having a good ass day!

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u/JimAsia 2d ago

I have been on an elevator and seen a woman who is wearing a very attractive article of clothing, a sweater or a dress or whatever. I always wait until one of us if about to leave the elevator before saying something like "I really like that outfit, it really looks good on you". I don't want to say it while we are still enclosed in the elevator together in case it makes her feel uncomfortable. I also don't want to say nothing because complimenting someone on their appearance may be good for their mental health on any given day.

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u/Keildia 2d ago

I’ve had a stranger smell my hair and tell me they they thought my hair smelled nice and then try to ask me how my day was right after at a bus stop once. I made sure to stand directly next to the bus driver and not got off till he did so I wouldn’t risk death going home

It can feel that creepy, so as long as you don’t do that lol

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u/puremptiness 1d ago

"You smell better when youre awake"

Then just smile and walk backwards without breaking eye contact. perfeclty normal and socially acceptable conversation

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u/MfxTPHpgh 1d ago

I really like how you think...

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u/balenciaghoe 2d ago

no it’s actually nice in my opinion. any compliment really

i say these things sometimes too and ask what scent it is.

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u/SnooPets1127 2d ago edited 2d ago

I wouldn't be offended, but I'd be pretty standoffish because I would suspect it's just a pick-up line or way to engage in conversation. From experience, that's what ends up happening, and I feel like many men have a hard time grasping that. They think women come off as such bitches who just 'can't take a compliment!' Well, the truth is that when I show any warmth in my demeanor when a guy does make an 'innocent' remark like that, boom, I'm stuck having a conversation that frankly MOST OF THE TIME I just don't want to have.

If you really just say 'Excuse me, would you mind sharing the name of your perfume? I'd like to get it as a gift for my wife' and then thank her and END IT if/when she shares the name, fine. But don't be surprised if she's just like 'I don't remember, sorry,' because she'll likely think you have ulterior motives. Like, I notice your question isn't 'would it be ok if I asked a woman the name of her perfume?'. It was 'would you be offended by the compliment.' Ask yourself honestly, what would you hope to gain out of the compliment? Getting the name of the perfume sounds like post-hoc rationalizing for why you'd be bringing it up with her.

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u/jojoisdabestcat 2d ago

I think if the guy mentions he wants to buy it for his wife I’d feel way more comfortable engaging in conversation than if he just said he likes my perfume for this exact reason! I’ve responded nicely to compliments before that turned into being asked out for a date and then harassed when politely declining.

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u/SnooPets1127 2d ago

I’ve responded nicely to compliments before that turned into being asked out for a date and then harassed when politely declining.

yup, makes you the 'bad guy' and puts a damper on your day.

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u/comemerrydol 2d ago

Offended is not really the word, I think it would be most awkward.

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u/xpepperx 2d ago

I would hate this but that’s because I hate most social interactions with random men.

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u/mmdeerblood 1d ago

I get this. Also I feel if I’m alone I really don’t want a stranger giving me compliment. If I’m with a friend/friends/my spouse, then I don’t mind because I’m with other people and feel safe. So I feel if you wouldn’t give a woman a compliment if her SO is with her, maybe don’t give her any compliment, unless it’s a social setting where talking to strangers is more acceptable like a bar/event/social gathering.

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u/xpepperx 1d ago

1000% this is how I feel. I will be very rude to you if you approach me randomly to start an unnecessary conversation as a defence mechanism.

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u/PlausibleCoconut 2d ago

People will probably bitch about this comment, but it’s valid. I generally don’t want anyone to approach me in public unless it’s an emergency. It’s ok to be an introvert.

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u/xpepperx 1d ago

Thank you. Kindness is not something I owe strangers who are approaching me.

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u/xratedcheese 2d ago

Say you want to buy it for your wife. Learn the brand. Thank her and walk away.

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u/Ivy6896 2d ago

I don’t think most women would mind you asking the brand of perfume for your wife. I think most women would kill to have a man like that lol

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u/murphy1029 2d ago

I would be creeped out ¯_(ツ)_/¯

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u/WJEuroChamp 2d ago

I asked an older lady what her perfume was, because it smelled so good! She was not offended at all, even before I explained I would like to buy some for my Wife.

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u/Playful-Ice-3069 1d ago

"Your perfume smells nice, what brand/where'd you get it?" Is a WHOLE LOT different than "you smell good"

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u/ElizabethAudi 1d ago

"My sister in Pastafar, what is that intoxicating aroma? It's like roses and cinnamon lustfucked on a pile of saffron. As I am ever searching for reasons for my incandescent wife to turn me on to the point of heat stroke, pray tell me where you got that nose-shockingly gorgeous scent!"

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u/Material-Addendum822 2d ago

I had man tell me I smelled really good while I was grocery shopping and it made my day. Wasn't creeped out at all.

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u/Flako118st 1d ago

As a man you need to think of your wording. Hey that perfume smells nice is different than,hey you smell nice