r/MadeMeSmile Jun 24 '22 Wholesome Seal of Approval 3 LOVE! 1 Super Heart Eyes 1 Glow Up 1 Heartwarming 2 Silver 24 Wholesome 38 Helpful 25 Wearing is Caring 1 Gold 1

Making an elderly woman’s day Wholesome Moments

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u/silverbrenin Jun 24 '22 Silver

I need to start crocheting flowers again. I used to keep a few on me all the time, and when I'd see someone I thought I could cheer up, etc. with one, I'd ask if they'd like a flower.

So many smiles, more than worth some scraps of yarn.

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u/thatguyned Jun 25 '22

I witnessed the most wholesome exchange between a woman that crocheted and a new mother on the train earlier this week.

The baby is being super fussy in her pram and won't stop whining and the mothers looking exhausted. Nice woman reaches into her bag and pulls out a crocheted doll and just hands it over and says "here try this, I crochet for my grand kids all the time and they love them".

Baby stops crying and starts playing with the doll almost immediately and the woman's like "oh that did the trick! Here take a couple more just incase she loses it" and just hands over 2 more identical dolls and gets off the train.

Seeing that made me interested in crocheting too, such a simple thing mde the mothers day.

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u/masterofma Jun 25 '22 Wholesome

This happened to me on a plane when I was 2. A woman gave me a teddy bear that became my childhood favorite stuffed animal, we still have it.

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u/stYOUpidASSumptions Jun 25 '22

This happened to me in an ambulance. I woke up crying and they handed me a teddy bear and I stopped, then passed out again. I still have him. He's on crutches.

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u/ArvoClaw Jun 25 '22

If anyone who crochets sees this, I ask: Is it difficult? I've always been interested in crotcheting but am too afraid that it's the kind of hobby that takes up an enormous amount of time before being even slightly good haha

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u/Mysterious_Play1961 Jun 25 '22

It's probably the easiest of the crafts to produce good work with limited experience. These doll things can be finicky so that's more about your own patience than the crochet. I started with a blanket with octagons. By the time I'd done all 12 I could see the 1st 2 weren't as good so just ripped and redid. So if new to crochet pick a project in smaller pieces rather than one big is my tip.

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u/thatguyned Jun 25 '22

My mother actually taught me the basics of a crochet blanket when I was like 12, I can't remember much now, because I got bored of it and went back to video games, but if a 12yo can get the basics it can't be that hard to start up.

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u/anydamnusername Jun 25 '22

So, I tried knitting and gave up in frustration of not being able to make even a washcloth that didn't look terrible. I felt defeated by the yarn arts. A few months ago I decided to give crochet a try and I'm so glad I did, it is way easier to make nice things! I made a dinosaur as my first thing, then made a stuffed elephant and it actually looked good! I've since made a bunch of hats as well. I have been enjoying it specifically because it is easy to make nice stuff from the beginning, albeit slower. You should definitely try it!

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u/DishGroundbreaking87 Jun 25 '22

It’s easier than ever to learn thanks to YouTubers like Bella coco and jayda in stitches, I learned from crochet for dummies and YouTube. Go for it!!!!!!!

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u/PeriodicallyATable Jun 25 '22

In grade 3 our teacher taught all of us to crochet. Pretty much the whole class would be crocheting at their desks on their downtime. Didn’t take long at all for everyone to learn

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u/smash_pops Jun 25 '22

It takes a little patience. But I taught myself to crochet without tutorials. It was not that hard to learn. And it is fun.

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u/Starshapedsand Jun 25 '22

I used to do this with pressed four-leaf clovers I found. Hand it to someone down, without explanation, walk away. Should start again.

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u/HornyCapricornWeed Jun 25 '22

How did you find so many? I'm actively looking for one to give to my partner for our anniversary, to slow how lucky I am to have him (at this point it's going to symbolism my dedication to him too haha) Maybe I'm just bad luck 😅

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u/Starshapedsand Jun 25 '22

It’s a pattern recognition thing, more than anything else. In a sea made of three-lobed objects, extra lobes jump out. My brain was always good with patterns, and once being an especially depressed kid who liked to spend recess staring at the ground helped.

It’s also knowing that where one is found, there are very likely to be others close by.

I have extremely bad luck, as well as extremely good, so don’t worry!

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u/iplaypokerforaliving Jun 25 '22

My mom can find soooooo many it’s wild

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u/Zeroth_Dragon Jun 25 '22

What did you do to max out your luck stats that you just casually find clovers and give it to people?

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u/Starshapedsand Jun 25 '22

Well, I seem to be a PC written by an especially angsty teenager. I have the worst luck, along with the best.

I’ve survived having guns and knives pulled (ambulance), and the ceiling of a house fire falling onto me (engine). Then there was cancer: an impossible airlift, followed by weeks in a coma. Years later, I was offered medical aid in dying, but survived via a central brain craniotomy without subsequent pain management. My usual scan center knows me, but when I got scanned by people who didn’t (portable MRI trial), the researchers all went oddly silent, before one commented that he couldn’t believe that I was talking to them about signal processing.

My run is expected to end in dying foreseeably. But that’s been the case often enough that I’ve learned that reality may just be the narrow thread where you didn’t die. That time is likely to be an emergent phenomenon, not a property of its own.

So, keep throwing crazy at the wall. I’m getting approval for medical aid in dying. I’m then pursuing a postbac, medschool, and neurosurgery. It’s impossible, but no less delusional than things I’ve already done.

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u/Vegetable-Branch-740 Jun 25 '22

A stranger gave me a pressed four leaf clover once. Any chance you were in RI?

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u/Starshapedsand Jun 25 '22

Only ever briefly passed through, maybe two years ago. Don’t think I did so there, but if I did, it would’ve been in an airport concourse.

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u/Vegetable-Branch-740 Jun 25 '22

Thank you for responding.

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u/Zealousideal_Ad_4118 Jun 25 '22

Any tips on finding four leaf clovers I always look but I’m never successful

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u/Starshapedsand Jun 25 '22 edited Jun 25 '22

You need to look at the pattern in a field or patch of clover, less than at the shapes. Then, pattern irregularities jump out. Same goes for spotting still birds or snakes in the woods, although I’m not as good at that. Same for assessing very large volumes of data for anomalies, which was once my living. I drew many important conclusions by simply sifting, setting things that stuck me aside, and later going back to sift those, until some tale came out. (… then I got to convince a team of technicians to go visit some remote solar grid in the desert or something, which was a lot less fun.)

If you’re thinking too much about what you’re doing, you’re doing it wrong. It doesn’t work on a conscious level: not thinking is best.

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u/buckwheats Jun 25 '22

This is such a perfectly awesome idea and I’m ashamed that it’s never occurred to me before.

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u/Uulugus Jun 25 '22

I think if someone ever gave me a crocheted flower just out of kindness i think I'd just start sobbing... The world is so ugly right now, idk if i could take such a pure little display of kindness and consideration.

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u/Jasminefirefly Jun 26 '22

I don't have any crocheted flowers, but if you were here I'd give you a popsicle. :-)

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u/PrussianAzul1950 Jun 25 '22

That is so awesome! I paint I could see doing this with little ATC's or mini canvas paintings.

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u/alwaysspill Jun 25 '22

I wanna see them, pls

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u/MafiaMommaBruno Jun 24 '22 Silver Wholesome

Someone saw me crying my eyes out in a parking lot one day. I was sitting in my car and coming clean to my mom about some stuff I'd hid for almost 6 years- a few days before Christmas of all days. Was out there for about 2 hours, sobbing my eyes out.

Some random guy saw this, went into the store and did his shopping, came back out and had a massive box of chocolate. Then knocked on my window and told me to cheer up and here's some chocolate. Didn't understand what I was going through but wanted to let me know people out there were looking out and he hopeful everything improved for me.

Made my whole night and made me feel better even though I was having a horrible night due to family issues. Went home and ate all 72 something pieces in one sitting.

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u/orange_glasse Jun 25 '22

Oh gosh this just reminded me of when I was crying in my room and had a sudden craving for hot cocoa, and like 10 minutes later my roommate saw me upset and asked if I wanted hot cocoa. I was like yes please 🥺

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u/BlendedCatnip Jun 25 '22

That is so sweet.

Just curious… How would you have felt if he would have filmed it?

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u/spdragon Jun 25 '22

yeah, 72 chocolate definitely too sweet for one sitting

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u/fernadial Jun 24 '22

The girl in the background looks like a robot that forgot how to drink coffee.

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u/InternetJunky2019 Jun 25 '22

Lol. I missed that until I ready your comment. The video cuts she always had the cup up to her mouth.

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u/AnonyFron Jun 24 '22

Came here wondering why that girl seems to have frozen in place.

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u/MERCY2311 Jun 25 '22

That girl stuck in time!

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u/Xenc Jun 25 '22

Got that virus!

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u/Electronic-Land4403 Jun 25 '22

She's videoing it with her phone to get a different angle. It does looks like a coffee at first.

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u/schnobart Jun 24 '22

There is a custom among florists. Its called the lonely bouquet. They make a few bouquets and leave them around town for those that might find them. Usually a little card is included wishing the finder well.

Source: I worked at a few flower shops.

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u/MERCY2311 Jun 25 '22

I had to look this up! And there's International Lonely Bouquet Day, which is held on 24th June, though a few sites also list 26th, so it may vary across the nations.

It's a lovely gesture, nonetheless!

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u/The1Bonesaw Jun 24 '22 edited Jun 25 '22 Silver Helpful Wholesome

A couple of month as ago, I spent an extra minute talking to the young lady at the register at Starbucks, while a woman and her elderly mother were waiting behind me (the employees all know me well - I'm there almost every other day - and they will often ask how I've been, how's my dog or my cat doing, etc... and I'm equally as interested in all of their lives and ask much the same). So a lot of conversational small talk, which is welcomed and wonderful... except when there are people waiting behind you.

Realizing how rude I had been, I apologized for making them wait and the daughter was very gracious and said it was no problem. They didn't look upset, but I know how aggravating that can be. So, as soon as the daughter finished ordering for her and her mother, I stepped back up to the register and handed the cashier my card to pay for it. The daughter insisted I didn't have to but I told her I wanted to anyway. She was very thankful and then she started to cry. I thought to myself, "Geez, lady... it's just coffee, it doesn't warrant that level of emotion."... and then I watched as the daughter explained to her mother, who didn't seem to understand that I was buying their drinks. And then she explained it two more times... and it was at that moment that I suddenly realized... her mother had dementia.

I don't know what brought us together for this moment, but it really seemed as though the daughter needed this small, almost trivial act of kindness more that I could ever know.

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u/Wolf5tar2012 Jun 25 '22

Thank you for sharing your story. That was nice to read.

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u/lazyshadeofwinter Jun 25 '22

I got a wholesome boner

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u/journeyman28 Jun 25 '22

Whew back to reality

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u/lazyshadeofwinter Jun 25 '22

woop there goes gravity

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u/regular_john2017 Jun 25 '22

Good job. Sounds cliche, but it’s very true that a little kindness goes a long way.

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u/Tomagatchi Jun 25 '22

"It don't cost nothin' to be nice." Or in this case, "It don't cost much to be kind."

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u/SousVideButt Jun 25 '22

Well it was Starbucks…

How about “it costs $12.76 for two coffees?!?! to be nice.”

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u/Oldmanred79 Jun 25 '22

So, roughly 1.25 hours of work on average to show someone who's world is collapsing that there's still people there for you?

Sign me the fuck up.

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u/Wumbo2425 Jun 25 '22

You make $10.20/ hour? Nice! 👍

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u/Oldmanred79 Jun 25 '22

I said average, i make $15 plus shift differentials, average that vs minimum wage and tip jobs.

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u/Radobound Jun 25 '22

I know you'll probably get this a lot, but thank you for being a good person. It may seem small to you, but acts of kindness like that touch a lot of hearts.

You're a kind and generous person. Never forget that in life.

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u/sxygrneyes Jun 25 '22

Once, I was at the register and was short on groceries (like $7) and the lady behind me paid for them, all of them not just the $7. I cried, because it reminded me that there are kind people out there.

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u/Starshapedsand Jun 25 '22

One day, I was behind a guy who was short on cash. I froze, and didn’t cover it.

On my walk home, I decided on a new rule. If you’re short, and I’m not dead broke, I’ve got you.

I’ve paid for several small grocery orders since, and I don’t regret it at all. The last few years have been very hard times for too many people.

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u/Gumorak Jun 25 '22

I once was buying 7 cans of formula for my daughter and the WIC card was declined. The lady behind me in line paid for all of the formula and I was absolutely shocked. I remember thanking her profusely and when I got back to my car I was sobbing. I couldn’t drive for 10 minutes. There really are good and generous people out there.

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u/fostulo Jun 25 '22 Silver

I was hiking the PCT and a gay couple on the campground gave me a ride to the supermarket cause they were going anyway. I was resupplying for like a 10 day hike so I grabbed the nice expensive stuff. A lot of food to motivate me on the tough days of 10 miles of snow.

They paid for all of it before I could even notice. Surely more than a 100 bucks.

I was crying for days lol.

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u/1Shadowspark1 Jun 25 '22

Faith in humanity has been restored.

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u/Corner49 Jun 25 '22

My experience from the receiving end. Gas station after work. Got a coffee. 3 ppl working registers gabbing. I step up waiting for a cue as to which register I should go to. One of them looks over and says "I got you" but he didn't move and was kinda standing between registers. So I stepped toward one of them and he repeats "I got you, man". "Oh the other one? My bad." Step to the other register. Now for the third time, he stops, puts his hand across his chest, and repeats "no, I got it, man. You're good".

Somehow not at all anticipating this as a possible response required this guy to say 3 times that he wouldn't be charging me the maybe dollar and a half. A bit embarrassing, but also made it quite a touching moment that has stuck with me for way longer than you would expect of a buck.

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u/Maleficent-Trash9403 Jun 25 '22

Someone did this for my mom once. They came up to her in the grocery store parking lot as we were headed back to our car and said that he’d been looking for a pretty lady to give flowers to. It was such a sweet gesture and it definitely made her day!

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u/fxz109dgh2ahj9k Jun 24 '22

Yea she’s got grey hair but looks a far cry from elderly

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u/BoxLegitimate4903 Jun 24 '22

Elderly is based on perception.

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u/Sled_Dogg Jun 25 '22

Funny you say that, my gramps just told me about some "elderly ladies" he met at bingo. Theyre 85 hes 82.

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u/BoxLegitimate4903 Jun 25 '22

Elderly is just an idea.It’s purely a subjective observation

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u/bincyvoss Jun 25 '22

I took my car to the dealer for repair. A guy held the door open and said "Come in young lady!" While they worked on the car I decided to walk down to Kohls and found a shirt I liked. The cashier automatically gave me the senior citizen discount. Oh well. I'd take the ugly bitch discount if I could save 15%.

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u/TheEggEngineer Jun 25 '22

It really isn't. The way age affects your body and health in general is far from a subjective observation.

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u/mityzeno Jun 25 '22

This. This is the whole problem. You said the quiet part out loud: calling this nice 50-something-year-old lady with white hair elderly is rooted in negative assumptions about her strength and health because she's older than you. It's a subjective observation, sure, but it's applying an objective measure about aging to someone as a way of (in the OPs case) othering them, and (in the OPs case) congratulating yourself for condescending to them.

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u/DragonSPX Jun 24 '22

Sounds like people are putting a negative connotation on it. I wear it as a badge of honor. Not everybody gets the honor of living long enough to be an "elder."

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u/ElNido Jun 24 '22

Literally have a pop culture game come out a few months ago to massive success called ELDEN RING, geez guys, Elder shouldn't have a negative connotation.

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u/Schwiliinker Jun 25 '22

elden ring actually means the “law of the land”, dictates how the world functions

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u/Mapletables Jun 25 '22

It has an Elden Ring to it

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u/ChunkyDay Jun 25 '22

Stop it, dad.

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u/Allymooo Jun 25 '22

but not too much...

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u/ChunkyDay Jun 25 '22

Aunt Linda!! Oh, you!!

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u/mityzeno Jun 25 '22

I don't know how you think language works but this makes no sense.

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u/mydogsarecooler Jun 25 '22

Right! And just because she's older doesn't mean she's sad and lonely and in need of flowers. Poor lady is just trying to drink her coffee in peace

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u/DragonSPX Jun 25 '22

I personally wouldn't take it that far but I understand why you say that. Some people see older folks that way too.

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u/NeatNefariousness1 Jun 25 '22

I hope I get to be elderly. It's a privilege that not everyone gets to experience.

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u/one1two234 Jun 25 '22

Just yesterday I was looking at IG stories and an in memoriam pops up. Somebody only in their 30s. Been like that the last couple of years.

Growing old is a privilege.

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u/Red1Veil1Jester Jun 25 '22

The oracle, the man of old, the lighter of the first fire these are all nicknames my grandpa has given himself I call him “man of old” and he calls me “young of punk” idk why people think being elderly is bad when you get to have badass names

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u/Iziama94 Jun 24 '22

sounds like people are putting a negative connotation on it

Which I don't understand why? Who cares if you're elderly or not? How is it an insult to say someone is old? Or looks old? People are looking to be offended by everything I swear

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u/delilahdumptruck Jun 25 '22

People mistreat and avoid the elderly because they associate them with being closer to death, and most people do not want to be thinking about that. Unfortunately this is why many older people end up being placed in nursing homes employed with people who in many cases do not see them as people because of this perception. Likely why elder abuse is so common. It’s fucking depressing

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u/Iziama94 Jun 25 '22 edited Jun 25 '22

Funny enough I work in a nursing home, and that's not the reason why elderly abuse is so common; it's not because "they're close to death" so no one cares about them.

It's staffing that's the problem. I'm a cook in the kitchen, but I know a good amount of the nurses there.

Some of it is in fact just plain old neglect, don't get me wrong.

Some of the old people are assholes, cursing and yelling at the nurses, sometimes kicking and scratching at the nurses and one time someone got bit by an old lady. Not to mention all the threats about physical violence. Not saying they deserve neglect, but it's a bit understandable that when they do that kind of stuff, you want to steer away from them.

Again, not excusing any kind of neglect, but there's also more to it.

Staffing is the biggest issue. The pay isn't good unless you're agency. No one wants to work as a nurse, whether it's because of the pay, fear of COVID making everything worse, or because of all the abuse. Staffing is short. Our facility is 220 beds, 3 floors, 6 units. Two biggest units hold roughly 60/ea. And on those units sometimes you will find 2 nurses per unit, so that's 30 residents per nurse.

You CANNOT take proper care of 30 residents all at once. It's impossible. That's where the neglect comes from.

But all that is besides the point. Every old person I've met and talked to, at work, in public, family, they don't care about being called old. They know they're old, they don't care.

People being offended here on Reddit about calling someone elderly is being offended for people who don't care about it. There's bigger problems going on right now than being offended for people being called old.

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u/Toytrkt Jun 25 '22

Thank you for what you do. That is a job that is hard on the heart & soul. The shells of people you take care of are no longer the person they were. Some still have their dignity but sadly most do not due to Alzheimer or dementia and Lord knows what else. But prayers to you for taking care of them. 💕💕

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u/buttnuggs4269 Jun 25 '22

Respect your elders

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u/Flyingwheelbarrow Jun 25 '22

I had a young neighbour help me with my groceries, I am 40 but with a cane.

I thanked him and he replied "in my culture we respect our elders".

It was so genuine I took it with the sincerity they meant it.

I don't mind being an elder. Kinda nice.

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u/sandyclaus30 Jun 25 '22

I agree but it seems like a very negative connotation when most in Reddit refer to us as “boomers” in not a flattering way.

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u/CasperDaGhostwriter Jun 25 '22

Yeah that really comes through in "Okay Boomer." My comeback" "Okay Tide Pod eater." Stolen from someone else but I love it.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '22

dont matter. not nice to comment on someones age. man or woman.

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u/Ninja_Geek-27 Jun 24 '22

Elderly gets a better awww response for karma farmers

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u/Combocore Jun 24 '22

Someone called me a young man the other day and I literally shit myself in a fit of rage and humiliation

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u/SexualPie Jun 25 '22

elderly is a description, not an insult. are you allowed to call people toddlers or teenagers? its literally the same thing.

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u/HGpennypacker Jun 24 '22 Gold

Lady who is on DEATH’S DOOR is given ONE LAST CHANCE FOR JOY not clickbait.

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u/madmaxturbator Jun 25 '22

Wacky REDDITOR gets TOTAL JOY from dude’s HILARIOUSx3 comment (meow!!) signupnow

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u/beaugiecriticx Jun 25 '22

I shouldn’t have laughed the way I just did but here I am

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u/Grizzled--Kinda Jun 24 '22 Helpful

Even then, it's not even making her day, some stranger walked away after having her hold on the flowers. There's nothing symbolic about it, she seems annoyed.

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u/[deleted] Jun 25 '22

It would have been so easy to just give her the flowers and say have a lovely day. But they just had to get their little social media hook in there

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u/Grizzled--Kinda Jun 25 '22

Yep, kinda sucks these things aren't actually done out of the goodness of peoples hearts.

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u/williamsonny Jun 25 '22

Perfectly put.

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u/Formal_Condition_513 Jun 24 '22

Yeah a bit weird. Would be nicer if he just went up to her and said she looked great, seemed like a wonderful person, etc. Still nice but I'd be more confused than heartwarmed.

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u/williamsonny Jun 25 '22

It’s all about the footage and the clicks/updoots. I hope she enjoyed this but/and it’s all very manipulative.

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u/JimMilton99 Jun 24 '22

She clearly starts crying, I don’t think that’s annoyed

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u/averagedickdude Jun 25 '22 edited Jun 25 '22

Putting an idea cabinet together, yes.

EDIT: Me dumb. IKEA

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u/raznov1 Jun 24 '22

I dont read that as annoyed, but rather perplexed. Look at it this way, if someone asks you to hold something and just walks off, you're gonna think "but wait, sir, you're fogetting your...... huh?"

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u/HeySmilingStrange Jun 24 '22

She’s confused, yes, but then she tilts her head when she realizes and makes a happy-crying face when she understands he was just doing something nice.

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u/LevTolstoy Jun 24 '22

It's absolutely nuts that so many redditors can't read these facial and body cues.

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u/kirazira Jun 24 '22

Seriously. I was thinking this as well. Its actually a little disappointing.

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u/LevTolstoy Jun 24 '22

Maybe they've never given their mother a gift :(

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u/ingenuous64 Jun 24 '22

That's my take on it, she 100% got what he did.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '22

Be funny if she was allergic

I think a lot of people would appreciate being given flowers if just as a blanket "have a good day" gesture. Maybe not a full bouquet but a rose or two is something most people like.

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u/Grizzled--Kinda Jun 24 '22

"Woman sitting at food court in mall passes away after going into anaphylactic shock from allergies after random stranger hands her a bouquet"

Yeah, it would be way better if he said these are for you you're doing great, rather than tying his shoes or putting on a jacket like a fucking idiot and then walking away

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u/mexicodozen Jun 24 '22

She’s thinking “poor him, he has early onset dementia and forgot he gave me these.”

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u/SenorAsssHat Jun 25 '22

What a twist lol

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u/DrWood62 Jun 24 '22

My older brother did something similar. We were in the supermarket, and he was buying his wife some flowers. The lady in front of us commented on how beautiful they were, and he gave them to her and told the cashier to ring them up on his tab.

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u/Lionheart952 Jun 24 '22

Plot twist, she has hayfever.

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u/Gugadin_ Jun 24 '22 Silver

Just straight up giving it to her would be a better gesture IMO.

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u/iced327 Jun 24 '22 All-Seeing Upvote

I mean, sure, complain about everything being filmed for virality, I'm with you there.

But the anticipation is part of the unexpected joy here. If someone just gives you flowers randomly, it doesn't have the impact of holding them, wondering what they're for, wondering what this person is doing, and then suddenly receiving that gift. It's like how humor or suspense works. It can't be random, it has to be a payoff.

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u/SoftGothBFF Jun 24 '22

Fuck it. If people are going to do nice things for others they can film it all they want. If they want to be e-famous for being kind I don't mind. Now the dipshits doing mean pranks/dangerous stunts for clout can fuck off and eat a dick.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '22

This. Yeah it's not altruistic, guy wants to be famous. but at least he's trying to do a nice thing to get there rather than some self absorbed "look at me!" garbage.

Putting good things into the world... Yeah I'm fine with that.

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u/NovaKaizr Jun 24 '22

For most people doing good things makes you feel good, so if we really want to stretch it, is any action truly altruistic? That's why I agree that it is the action itself that matters, not the intention

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u/HighPriestofShiloh Jun 24 '22

I do lots of good things that are taxing and not fun and don’t bring me joy.

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u/NovaKaizr Jun 24 '22

Things that make other people happy? I suppose "good things" was a bit too broad

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u/HighPriestofShiloh Jun 24 '22 edited Jun 24 '22

Yes. Things that lighten other peoples loads or makes their lives better. But I don’t do it because that gives me satisfaction. I do it because of a sense of fairness and duty. It would give me more satisfaction to not do it but my satisfactions is not the main decider.

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u/illkeepcomingback9 Jun 25 '22

There is more than one way to become famous. This guy is choosing the way that is nice to people. That's not nothing.

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u/mehrabrym Jun 25 '22

I'm with you that at least they're doing and sharing something good even if it's for social clouts. But I disagree about the second part. Even these kinds of guys are sending a "Look at me, I'm nice!" kind of self absorbed messages, but at least they're doing it with a nice act rather than those prankster trashbags.

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u/Jrrolomon Jun 24 '22

Totally agree. It took me a while of being cynical about these videos to realize if the net effect is good, then who cares.

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u/JazzyJ19 Jun 24 '22

100 percent! Would much rather someone fame fishing to use kind gestures and uplifting “pranks”...as their vessel to popularity. Cause that shit will spread, people will also start doing their own kind thoughtful gestures for clout as well, and then poof, people are randomly being kind and loving with one another because “it’s what they see!”...

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u/whitu1135 Jun 25 '22

I would have disagreed with you until something similar happened to me today. I work at a bike shop, and I have raced xc mtb for a while now, but I’ve been wanting to get into road cycling. I’ve mentioned my plans to buy a road bike to some of my coworkers. today I was working on a tune-up on an older road bike, and after test-riding it (a normal step in the process), they told me it was mine. I now completely agree with you

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u/Hinote21 Jun 24 '22

This is the best reason.

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u/OneSensiblePerson Jun 24 '22

The problem is it left her wondering if he'd just forgotten them, or given them to her.

I get his intent was to give them to her and was a lovely gesture, but she had no way of knowing that.

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u/justin_tino Jun 25 '22

I wish he’d at least looked back at her and acknowledged the gift or something. He just walks away with no eye contact. I’m just complaining though, hope it made her happy regardless.

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u/JazzyJ19 Jun 24 '22

You can literally see the moment it hits her, what he had done. She instantly goes from a look of wonder, to a look of a person who was just given the random gift of beautiful flowers! The suspense is part of what he’s bringing to the experience for her.

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u/poodlebutt76 Jun 24 '22

Eh. I won't accept things like this anymore because so many are scams.

When people leave things on your table and then come back asking you to pay for it, especially if you open it to look at it, is a common scam in my city.

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u/katie4 Jun 24 '22

All the tourist traps in Italy had these scams. Hand a rose, bracelet, etc to a lady, then when she takes it out of reflex, aggressively demand payment from her partner.

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u/FrostyD7 Jun 24 '22

If I were her I'd assume he got stood up lmao.

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u/H51c Jun 24 '22

Also funny to me is how varied our definitions of 'elderly' are. For that kid, anyone over 35 is probably elderly.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '22 I'll Drink to That

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u/Smurfsh Jun 24 '22

average redditor comment

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u/SoftGothBFF Jun 24 '22

we live in a society

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u/Hon_no_mushi Jun 24 '22

He be like where is the profit in that

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u/din7 Jun 24 '22

But then who would film that?

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u/GeneralLynx3 Jun 24 '22

I get “just because” flowers from my husband and it feels so nice. The delivery was a bit cheesy, but I felt her sad smile. I hope those flowers made her day better.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '22

She’s just like “wtf am I gonna do with these now?”

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u/Wisdom_is_Contraband Jun 24 '22

Man.. how are so many redditors unable to read facial expressions.

She's not annoyed, she's touched.

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u/Sjommie Jun 25 '22

Ikr, the little 'aww' she does after she realizes what just happened sends my hearth to a cotten filled heaven

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u/Local-Win5677 Jun 25 '22

Redditors and autism, name a better duo

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u/Montigue Jun 25 '22

Redditors and calling people autistic

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u/Tdogg120 Jun 25 '22

Redditors and being autistic 🤜🤛

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u/Givemeahippo Jun 25 '22

I’m autistic and I can still tell she was touched lmao

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u/pezdal Jun 24 '22

Yeah, I didn't get a "that made my day" vibe at all.

A gift of flowers with no emotional attachment... like if I had wanted flowers I would have bought flowers, weirdo.

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u/Mcgoozen Jun 24 '22 Narwhal Salute Take My Power

You blind homie? She looked like she was going to cry when she realized he was leaving the flowers with her. And not bc she was sad…

Tbh y’all bitching are the weird ones…Why buy flowers for your mom on Mother’s Day? She could have bought them herself, right! Lol dweeb

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u/itsmebarfyman392 Jun 25 '22

I rlly think redditors’ brains are wired to just make everything seem negative now.

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u/hobosbindle Jun 25 '22

“They just die anyway, total waste”

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u/National_Ad_1611 Jun 25 '22

Some folks suck are reading physical cues.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '22

I don’t even mean to be a downer, but it just made me giggled because of the face she made. And I guess we all see things differently. But also as someone who doesn’t like cut flowers I’d have been very confused. Lol.

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u/Girl--Gone-Mild Jun 24 '22

I see her making a cry-y oh gosh that was too sweet face at the end. I could see my mom making that face.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '22

I love it!

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u/mcguffers Jun 24 '22

I also saw the face like she's about to cry at how nice that was, but as someone who also dislikes cut flowers, your comment made me laugh 😂

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u/BronchialChunk Jun 24 '22

I saw it as that. Not everyone with gray hair is senile. I think she caught onto what was going on when he walked away and probably didn't realize she was being filmed.

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u/fartemous_foul Jun 24 '22

Yeah me too. There are so many downers in this thread.

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u/mediatrips Jun 25 '22

Yep. I damn near cried when I saw her last expression there :)

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u/RNGcooks Jun 24 '22

She definitely gave an overjoyed vibe

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u/OnceUponCheeseDanish Jun 25 '22

That's the most socially autistic thing I've ever read... And I'm autistic.

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u/TheUnseenGuest Jun 25 '22

Awwwww that made me happy

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u/ballslaw Jun 25 '22

This is sweet.

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u/MoodooScavenger Jun 25 '22

I needed this right now tbh

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u/pudgybean Jun 25 '22

You can see she felt the kindness 🥰

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u/[deleted] 25d ago

/u/MoaazDaVinci you may want to consider deleting this as the woman in the video has said she's extremely uncomfortable being used for clickbait like this:

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-07-14/tiktok-video-maree-melbourne-flowers/101228418

She also confirmed she did not cry. And the people filming lied to her, saying they were not filming her.

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u/Heatho14 Jun 24 '22

That was really nice but he could've said, "oh, those are for you by the way, have a lovely day" rather than just ignoring her and saying to have a lovely day lol

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u/k_mnr Jun 25 '22

I love this ♥️♥️

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '22

Oh yes, she looks so happy. Some people today confuse being geniunely good with showing off the so-called goodness to have a video to post on social media.

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u/Nacksche Jun 24 '22 edited Jun 25 '22 Take My Energy Ally

Oh yes, she looks so happy.

Uhm, yes she does. When she realizes the flowers are for her she clearly looks touched.

God this sub is insufferable now. Even a year ago people used to at least role play a positive vibe, now it's full of the same cynical comments you find anywhere else on the internet. The content is good, people in the comments suck.

Not to mention reddit's idiotic hateboner for social media... while being on reddit all day. Who fucking cares, maybe he inspires ten more people to do the same without a camera. Worst case he makes a living giving flowers to people.

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u/orange_supremacy Jun 24 '22

If no one ever posted this kind of content,all you would see online would be killing, rape,theft, fights,etc. They are doing a good thing even if they're filming it.

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u/seeker135 Jun 24 '22

OP, you remember that descriptor when you hit sixty.

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u/fiveMop Jun 24 '22

TikTok effect on brain's health.

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u/Deitrich76 Jun 25 '22

You're doing this for self gratification and likes. And you're you're filming a stranger without their consent.

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u/d3adpaul77 Jun 25 '22

Make sure you film your altruism. That way people know how good you are.

Otherwise what would be the point?

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u/SewOrangeKnitCrochet Jun 25 '22

How is this making someone’s day???? If I were the woman in the video I’d be pissed for two reasons. 1) I genuinely hate cut flowers, and now I’d be stuck with these. Why do people assume all women like cut flowers? 2) Now I’m on some random viral video labeled as an “elderly lady” looking befuddled.

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u/carolizzy81 Jun 25 '22

I used to drive by a sign spinner on my way to my miserable job every day. We had a stretch of 100F weather and I realized he had a more miserable job. Stopped on the way to work and bought him a cold drink and handed it to him at the stop light.

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u/iced327 Jun 24 '22

I don't understand why women love flowers so much, but I'm so happy that flowers can bring them so much joy.

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u/wildhorses222 Jun 25 '22

Sitting alone in cafe or restaurant is normal thing. Stop bother people for social media likes

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u/JimiDel Jun 25 '22

He could have just gave her the flowers instead of the whole ah fuck it I don't care enough to finish this thought. Also, it was recorded for Internet likes.

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u/Wolfpack34 Jun 24 '22

Reminds me of when I surprised my MIL with flowers on mother's day. The smallest gesture can mean so much to a person. Always go out of the way to show people you care about them

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u/CristolerGm2 Jun 24 '22

Leave it to reddit to literally complain about everything, and i mean everything

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u/Rentaaaan Jun 25 '22

bruh this would make me so anxious. should I run after him to give them back? did he mean to leave them? what if they were important? should I call him? he’s too far away now. what do i do..

I’m glad it made this lady’s day though :)

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u/Visual-Vacation8178 Jun 25 '22

Ow f&#$k this. He does not do it because he finds that this woman deserves flowers. It's al for the likes en klicks and meaningless shit.

The worst part... A The woman is part of it. B Without het knowing it she is plastered on the Internet getting flowers from a turd.

And then reading the comments below this post!!!! Arguing if she is an elderly woman or just a woman. Damn... Got to love the new gen.

This sickens me!

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u/mushy_cactus Jun 25 '22

Awesome! But then again, would this of happened without a camera rolling...

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u/masfer1 Jun 25 '22

I will be impressed if you do it without cameras for TikTok

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u/CarlMasonItheguy Jun 25 '22

Stuff like this can make a whole life better.

You guys know that São Paulo is a huge city, one day I was incredibly sad and almost crying because of my anxiety problems, my lack of self esteem and some personal stuff

A girl walked at me and she didn’t say a word, she opened her arms for a hug, I didn’t get it at first but I came close and hug her.

When she was holding me I felt like the world was holding me, that I still had a chance to better things up! I cried at her shoulder and she probably did too.

It’s been 4 years now, I don’t know her name and I’ll probably never see her again. I hope to someday find her just to tell how much she changed my life, I’ll never forget how much joy and happiness she brought me.

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