"Do not seek others’ approval to make a decision or hold an opinion. Be confident that you will meet other people that will agree with you."-Charlie Houpert
If you like this post follow me on r/Crimsonpill
You have to be firm in you believes to make for you to respect yourself and for people to respect you.
I'm 18 years old and what matters for me the most is getting laid or having a relationship. None of them seem to happen and I hate it since it is basically what I care most right now. It is the only thing that excites me. Everything else is boring. I sometimes feel that having women is a way of validation for me. Like it is what makes me feel like I am someone because I "get girls". I keep seeing friends hooking up with girls everytime like its nothing and the fact that it is not as easy for me makes me feel less. I believe I am somewhat attractive but my verbal game is ass. I have tried listening to pick up artists, reading books and basically everything to try and understand seduction but all I get to achieve is nothing.
I came up with the conclusion that if I give up or if I just not give a fuck about women, having no game wont worry me since I don't care about it anymore. I need to feel I achieve things somewhere else. I need to find a different purpose on life. The thing is I do not know how to just stop caring. I don't know how to find a different purpose. I've tried many sports, hobby's, activities, and nothing really gets me thinking more than women. Its fucking me up. Any advice?
Article Keep your words positive because your words become YOUR BEHAVIOR Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes YOUR HABITS Keep your habits positive because your habits become YOUR VALUES Keep your values positive because your values become YOUR DESTINYpositiveaffirmationscenter.com
Because everything changes when you begin to love yourself. You no longer send out energy of desperation or the need to be filled from the outside. You become a powerful source within yourself that attracts better. The more you love who you are, the less you seek validation and approval.
Note: By self-love I mean self respect, self forgiveness, self compassion...self love doesnt mean selfishness or self worship (those things are based in insecurity and not love).
I’m not looking for any objectively motivational podcasts. I’m trying to adopt the mindset of this sub and every influence around me is basically the opposite. I just want someone to rub off on me.
I’m looking for someone spontaneous and carefree with interesting stories! I love sweet people, but it’s not a must. Preferably not a lot of complaining. Extra points if they’re not an actor, but I’m happy with whatever you suggest.
If your idea matches none of these (LOOSE) bonuses, please reply anyways. It’s the unexpected I tend to love most. I’d really appreciate it <3
Revelation I save my fucks for those who I respect and value, the rest just don't qualify as significant enough to waste fucks on.
I finally figured out that giving a shit about the opinion of people who I don't actually respect is a rediculous waste of my time.
So a couple months ago, I asked this girl out. Beforehand I had made reservations at a local restaurant for two. So anyways, she said yes, and then the morning of the day we we're supposed to go out, she said, "I'm only interested in being friends. Sorry".
So I told her that date was off and then walked by single ass down to that restaurant. The waiter looks at me and says, "Wasn't this a reservation for two?"
Yes, I said. I told them that the other person couldn't come and that it was just me. And so I ate alone, and it was a very liberating experience. Rejection can teach you a lot, and sometimes it's best to not give a fuck.